So I'm going out tomorrow.

[Blunderfail]

I'm going to try and flirt with some girls. I'm fucking nervous already - even as I type this. If anyone saw my thread before about me being 20 and never having a girlfriend, well, someone suggested I should just get out there already instead of sitting online complaining about it.

This sucks - because the only way I can get a girl is if I'm confident, and I'm really not confident.

Help? :(

EDIT: I'm going to the county fairgrounds.

[colorsoc]

Two monster xls and a pack of gum. They're your new best friends.

[Blunderfail]

Two monster xls and a pack of gum. They're your new best friends.

Monster xls? I like the gum idea, but don't want to come off as too cocky or anything. Plus, wouldn't she find it gross that I'm chewing while talking to her?

[Kimness]

Plus, wouldn't she find it gross that I'm chewing while talking to her?

YES! :mad:

[colorsoc]

Monster xls? I like the gum idea, but don't want to come off as too cocky or anything. Plus, wouldn't she find it gross that I'm chewing while talking to her?

Down two energy drinks, you won't even realize how conversational you are, and time will pass without you hanging on it. Two might be a lot for you though so try one out before the date.

Just don't have more than two pieces top in and don't chew it like a fucking cow or like you have a 20 ft long dick and you'll be straight. Chew quietly with mouth closed.

[Moderator]

For some reason I prefer to chew gum while I'm out, I find it relaxes me slightly, also if a girl sees you chewing gum it gives her a way of starting a conversation with you, simply by asking if she can have a piece.

[Blunderfail]

Down two energy drinks, you won't even realize how conversational you are, and time will pass without you hanging on it. Two might be a lot for you though so try one out before the date.

Just don't have more than two pieces top in and don't chew it like a fucking cow or like you have a 20 ft long dick and you'll be straight. Chew quietly with mouth closed.

Okay! And Moderator- good fucking idea! :eek:

[colorsoc]

For some reason I prefer to chew gum while I'm out, I find it relaxes me slightly, also if a girl sees you chewing gum it gives her a way of starting a conversation with you, simply by asking if she can have a piece.

Orally fixated me thinks.

Side note- Win her something.

[Orchid]

just be yourself. good luck

[err0r]

I'm going to try and flirt with some girls. I'm fucking nervous already - even as I type this. If anyone saw my thread before about me being 20 and never having a girlfriend, well, someone suggested I should just get out there already instead of sitting online complaining about it.

This sucks - because the only way I can get a girl is if I'm confident, and I'm really not confident.

Help? :(

EDIT: I'm going to the county fairgrounds.

Weed.

[colorsoc]

Weed.

Paranoia.

[somedude]

I never thought about the energy drink thing. That's actually a pretty cool idea.

Good luck, dude.. Let us know how it goes. Read up a bit, take deep breaths, and be yourself I guess.. There's gotta be a chica out there for ya.

[Blunderfail]

I never thought about the energy drink thing. That's actually a pretty cool idea.

Good luck, dude.. Let us know how it goes. Read up a bit, take deep breaths, and be yourself I guess.. There's gotta be a chica out there for ya.

Thanks. It sucks I'm nervous already though. Imagine how I'll be tomorrow. Hope the gum and energy drinks work.

[colorsoc]

. Hope the gum and energy drinks work.


No!!! They WILL work! Tell yourself over and over," Everything will work-out in my favor." because it will.

[Blunderfail]

No!!! They WILL work! Tell yourself over and over," Everything will work-out in my favor." because it will.

Yeah, you're right. Thanks.

[Agent 008]

So what's the plan?

[Blunderfail]

So what's the plan?

Buy two energy drinks, drink them, chew gum. When waiting in line for the rides is when I will go for it.

[Moderator]

Just make sure you're not TOO energetic. Hyperactivity is annoying. Dress in some nice clothes and maybe do some exercise before going out, it'll make you feel that little bit better about yourself.

[Purple Sprite]

http://www.ghacks.net/files/screens/2007/08/redtube.jpg + http://www.matthaworth.co.uk/img/a-hand.png = http://biology.clc.uc.edu/fankhauser/Cheese/Ice_Cream/1_skim_cream_P5250743.jpg

[StokedUp]

Weren't you supposedly a tranny lol.
At 20 you should have grown out of that a bit by now, I used to be very shy but not so much anymore.
If you're nervous have a few beers before hand (a FEW, not so you're falling over lol) be funny, friendly and a nice guy to be with.
Just do it already man.

[The General]

pics of yourself so we can know if you do and what to do to spruce you up

[Jizzmeister]

Enter, fuck off and die, you incessantly trolled S&A and now you're posting threads in L,L&R

[Agent 008]

Enter, fuck off and die, you incessantly trolled S&A and now you're posting threads in L,L&R

I think he might be serious this time.

I'm afraid he will pussy out at the last moment though. :(

[Warped Mindless]

Don't go out with the goal of meeting chicks. It puts pressure on you to approach girls and it adds extra anxiety. Instead, go out with the goal of having fun with your mates; if you see a cute girl then you can approach.

[Warped Mindless]

A few tips:

1) Have fun. When your interacting with a girl ask yourself "how can I make this fun?" If you're having fun, she will have fun.

2) Before you approach a girl, go be social with other random people first. It will get you in a social mood and calm your nerves.

3) If you see a cutie you want to approach, dont gawk at her. Chicks know when you're doing that. Follow a "3 second rule." As soon as you see the girl, approach her. Don't give yourself time to be nervous.

4) Don't be needy or seek approval from the girl.

5) Read my protip #1

Help that helps.

[Agent 008]

Don't go out with the goal of meeting chicks. It puts pressure on you to approach girls and it adds extra anxiety. Instead, go out with the goal of having fun with your mates; if you see a cute girl then you can approach.

It can be worse if you're out with your mates. They know you as the "old" you, and you'll be more likely to just be the "old" you. A lot harder to change when you're around the people that have a different mental image of you.

[Transparent]

If you have something that will make you think you have an edge, use it. For instance, a lucky coin. Something, anything, to make you think you're in control of the situation, so you have no reason to be nervous.

Maybe even dress up a little nicer than usual, or atleast put together an outfit that makes you think to yourself "Damn I look good". If you go out feeling great, you obviously won't be nervous, and you'll feel like a stud.

[Cójale]

Enter, fuck off and die, you incessantly trolled S&A and now you're posting threads in L,L&R

I'm pretty certain this is a Different Enter. He actually said so in a different Topic. Something about stealing some retard from &T's username and Photos and shit.

And props to the guy who said Masturbation. Taking the baby batter off the brain supposedly helps. Although I have heard the exact opposite as well.

Good Luck,

FY

[WikieWaters]

Ready for this:

Females are people just like you and me. You're not talking to a girl, your talking to a person. Breath, chill, and speak. Seriously, whats the worst thing that could happen.

Heres some worst case senerios:

1) She laughs in your face.
2) She rude.
3) she says nothing at all.
4) She says no.
5) You leave whereever you went feeling even more like a loser because you couldn't even say hello.

You're practicing. Chances are because its youre first girlfrind scenerio, you'll probably fail. But what I had to learn, was that getting rejected doesn't mean shit. Its funny the way our heads work. Its like just because one girl says no, or is rude, that it goes in the New York Times and you're forever crowned loser of the fucking century. Chances are the girl that rejects you doesn't know the entire female population thus a day or two (at most) later the rejection won't be important to you anymore.

You ready for another piece of knowledge?

YOU'RE NOT THAT FUCKING IMPORTANT!!!!!
The girl will not remember you even an hour later.

[Agent 008]

I'm pretty certain this is a Different Enter. He actually said so in a different Topic. Something about stealing some retard from &T's username and Photos and shit.

And props to the guy who said Masturbation. Taking the baby batter off the brain supposedly helps. Although I have heard the exact opposite as well.

Good Luck,

FY

If he faps beforehand, he most likely would simply lose motivation and stay on zokse instead.

Not fapping for two weeks beforehand will be no good either.

You know your body, so do what you know is right.

[WAN]

aren't you physically a woman now

[StokedUp]

aren't you physically a woman now


About a week late :rolleyes:

[yoplait]

Go for a run. It always calms my nerves. Or do as mentioned, drink energy drinks and chew gum. Just relax dude, if you don't think about it so much you'll be fine.

[Edens Garden]

One way you may want to try striking up a conversation is finding a booth selling sunglasses. If a girl you would like to talk to is trying them on you could compliment how a pair looks on her. Note- This wont work with every girl, but a lot should be willing to talk to you.

[Valerius]

Are oyu going with friends so you're not all alone?

[cronic5]

Just think "fuck it" and do it. Don't think too much. Since you're inexperienced in dating, I assume you wont be getting laid.

The problem most people have, is they think TOO much before saying or doing anything. A guy who thinks about putting his arm around a girl, but then starts to think she might not like it, or she might say something, will probably talk himself into not doing it. In reality, if that same guy had just gone with it, the worst that would have happened is she wouldn't let him, but in most cases she would.

Don't TRY to be confident, just do it. Be yourself, be how you would normally be around your friends, and don't come off as if you're TRYING to impress her, and you'll do just fine. Of course be a little extra nice and sweet to her, but don't go too far out of your "normal" personality.

[Jitsu6500]

Hahaha aren't you a fucking tranny?

You are a girl, but you're going out to meet girls? BUSTED!

[Blunderfail]

I wish I had read some of the later replies before I left today. But I'll use them again this weekend. It's not like I didn't try today... there were just no good looking girls my age by themselves. They were all with families and/or boyfriends... I suppose I wasn't ready yet anyway. I did smile at one girl sitting by herself, and she smiled back, but... I didn't talk to her, because she looked a bit too old (26 - 30). I need to think of a good place to go on the weekend. Any ideas?

Anyway sorry if this post didn't much make sense, I'm really tired from today. The fair was fun though.

[Agent 008]

^ Approach and flirt with 10 girls every day for 10 days, doesn't matter who they are or how old they are (within reason).

Srsly, once you have a goal in mind and that goal is not pussy, but ticking a few boxes in your notepad, it'll be much easier. Treat it like a dare, and take it from there.

Or, if you just want to do it for one day, make it a goal for one day.

[colorsoc]

Wow fail......... I thought I was giving you advice on how to chill-out for an upcoming preplanned date.

[Blunderfail]

Wow fail......... I thought I was giving you advice on how to chill-out for an upcoming preplanned date.

What? I did preplan.

[pill popper]

I'm going to try and flirt with some girls. I'm fucking nervous already - even as I type this. If anyone saw my thread before about me being 20 and never having a girlfriend, well, someone suggested I should just get out there already instead of sitting online complaining about it.

This sucks - because the only way I can get a girl is if I'm confident, and I'm really not confident.

Help? :(

EDIT: I'm going to the county fairgrounds.


Booze and more booze

get some cockiness into you

[NuclearWinter]

You can never pick up at theme parks/carnivals. Its universally known as a place where only families and couples go. Its not exactly a spot where singles go to pick up and ride the rides by themselves.

Go clubbing.

I know I'm going to be mercilessly laughed at, but when I started clubbing (18-19) I was nervous, I was actually consciously thinking I had no business to be there. But after a few times, I started to imagine that the club was party for me, and everybody there were my guests. I would walk in, make eye contact and smile to everyone (girls and guys) and walk up to groups and started conversations... Just don't thank people for being able to make it, like I once accidentally did. :( ....

But I'm not suggesting to do that.

One of my rules is just walk in like you own the place and open a conversation with the first group on your right (I'm right-handed, so if you're left handed, change it as you see fit). Do you have any really close friends? Bring them along. Before you go into the club, tell them to join any conversation, a few minutes after you've started one with a group. Once your friend has joined and is keeping the group occupied, start a conversation with your mark (if there aren't any girls you want to talk to in that group, move on). You could say something to her, for example, "Did you see the fight outside?", she will reply, "No?", then you can say "It was crazy, these 2 girls were fighting over this foreign guy, it got pretty ugly and the police actually ended up showing up.", to which your friend can and say "The guys name was Jorge (pronounced: Whore-hay), who fights over a guy named Jorge?!".

My friends and I have a stack of pre-made material designed to:

1.) Gauge their interest
2.) And primarily: Make them laugh

Did you know that the number 1 quality that most girls look for in a guy is humor.

A lot of girls are going to tell you to not use pre-made material. In most cases, they are right. Most guys will think about a few things to talk about to girls before they enter a club, then try to repeat it in verbatim and choke.

Leave your house an hour early, go to your friends, rehearse some of your stories so it appears organic, but I do warn you, you have to be half decent at acting to pull it off.

Also, while you're there scan the newspaper for the latest news for points of conversation you can use to keep conversation flowing. When you're on the way to the club, stop of at the supermarket, buy your gum and energy drinks, and when you're going through the checkout quickly scan the covers of the latest "girly" magazines... Again, thats just for more points of conversation, so you can say "Whats this I hear about new thing with Angelina?" (NOT that corny, thats just a lame example but you get the idea).

Wash. Rinse. Repeat.

You're going to suck the first time. You're going to suck the third time. You're going to notice improvements by the 5th but it will be second nature by the 10th.

You're going to be disheartened the first few times. When you go back home, write down all the things you think you did wrong and study them so you will never do it again.

I'm not claiming all this advice is 100% mine. I used to read pua material every now and then, so some their tactics have stuck.

The main things to do is just remember to be confident and be funny.

[Agent 008]

You can never pick up at theme parks/carnivals. Its universally known as a place where only families and couples go. Its not exactly a spot where singles go to pick up and ride the rides by themselves.

Go clubbing.

I know I'm going to be mercilessly laughed at, but when I started clubbing (18-19) I was nervous, I was actually consciously thinking I had no business to be there. But after a few times, I started to imagine that the club was party for me, and everybody there were my guests. I would walk in, make eye contact and smile to everyone (girls and guys) and walk up to groups and started conversations... Just don't thank people for being able to make it, like I once accidentally did. :( ....

But I'm not suggesting to do that.

One of my rules is just walk in like you own the place and open a conversation with the first group on your right (I'm right-handed, so if you're left handed, change it as you see fit). Do you have any really close friends? Bring them along. Before you go into the club, tell them to join any conversation, a few minutes after you've started one with a group. Once your friend has joined and is keeping the group occupied, start a conversation with your mark (if there aren't any girls you want to talk to in that group, move on). You could say something to her, for example, "Did you see the fight outside?", she will reply, "No?", then you can say "It was crazy, these 2 girls were fighting over this foreign guy, it got pretty ugly and the police actually ended up showing up.", to which your friend can and say "The guys name was Jorge (pronounced: Whore-hay), who fights over a guy named Jorge?!".

My friends and I have a stack of pre-made material designed to:

1.) Gauge their interest
2.) And primarily: Make them laugh

Did you know that the number 1 quality that most girls look for in a guy is humor.

A lot of girls are going to tell you to not use pre-made material. In most cases, they are right. Most guys will think about a few things to talk about to girls before they enter a club, then try to repeat it in verbatim and choke.

Leave your house an hour early, go to your friends, rehearse some of your stories so it appears organic, but I do warn you, you have to be half decent at acting to pull it off.

Also, while you're there scan the newspaper for the latest news for points of conversation you can use to keep conversation flowing. When you're on the way to the club, stop of at the supermarket, buy your gum and energy drinks, and when you're going through the checkout quickly scan the covers of the latest "girly" magazines... Again, thats just for more points of conversation, so you can say "Whats this I hear about new thing with Angelina?" (NOT that corny, thats just a lame example but you get the idea).

Wash. Rinse. Repeat.

You're going to suck the first time. You're going to suck the third time. You're going to notice improvements by the 5th but it will be second nature by the 10th.

You're going to be disheartened the first few times. When you go back home, write down all the things you think you did wrong and study them so you will never do it again.

I'm not claiming all this advice is 100% mine. I used to read pua material every now and then, so some their tactics have stuck.

The main things to do is just remember to be confident and be funny.

I gave you +1 after reading the first paragraph, but then your post got increasingly retarded.

1). It's hardly possible to have a coherent conversation at a club. The music is too loud, and you have to shout into people's ears.
2). Asking people about the fight outside that never happened is stupid. This being quite a popular "pua" "opener" as well, it'll just make you look like a complete tool.
3). Talking about "news" published in magazines for pre-teens is idiotic, since pre-teens are not allowed in clubs.

[Obelisk]

I did smile at one girl sitting by herself, and she smiled back, but... I didn't talk to her, because she looked a bit too old (26 - 30).

You should have still gone over there and talked to her. Even if it was just for a few minutes and then you moved on it still would have been good. You're still going to be really nervous until you start talking to girls and convince yourself that you can do it and that it's not hard. Just go for it next time, it'll be good practice.

[Nefret]

Why don't you try picking up girls at a place where you will find people with similar interests to you.

Also if you need practice interacting with people on a regular basis, get a customer service job, coffee shop or some shit. Your ability to carry on a conversation with improve drastically even just interacting with people on an incredibly superficial level.

[colorsoc]

What? I did preplan.

What I meant was, an agreed upon date between you and a girl but you were only trolling for girls. The thread might as well be titled 'Give me tips on how to get girls'.

[Lurker_Man]

You failed faggot.

[pygar]

I can imagine him putting his palm cards in his underwear (along with the mints and condoms) going up to the ugliest girls in the room and spitting out his lines like that kid in high school english who breaks down in every speech and get blank stares from everyone.

"hey, ladddddddddies" enter will say entering the scene "Is it hot in here or is it just me?, wow sugar were have you been all my life?!" *cue drums followed by cricket chirps*

"who was that fidgety guy with stuff down his pants?" the ugliest woman in the room will say as enter desperately attempts to flee the awkwardness he has produced.

"oh, that's just Enter" the second ugliest girl in the room will reply "he's a loser, I think he had a sex change"

good luck Enter. Woah this thread is OLD