Breakups just because

[whocares123]

This girl I used to date several years ago just got dumped by her current boyfriend of over a year, seemingly for no reason other than he didn't want to be tied down in a relationship. To me, that's such a stupid fucking reason because a) he now no longer has access to regular, hot teen pussy, b) he broke her heart even though he supposedly cared about her, c) somehow he was calling the shots throughout the relationship. i guess she was too submissive to his will and on some psychological level, this made her less appealing to him, even though before he'd be highly protective and jealous.

It just seems like to me that if you break up with someone, there has to be a real reason behind it. Something that happened. If things aren't going well, you have to have a conversation with your partner, saying "look, I love you, I don't want to break up. But here's what's wrong right now, let's work on it and hope to god we can fix it." But most people don't even try. They just come out of nowhere one day and be like "I think we shouldn't be together anymore."

See, the same thing happened to me a few months ago, so then when it happened to her, I thought this would give us a chance to reconnect and vent about our similar situations. I miss my most recent ex-girlfriend, but I know if she were to say to me, again out of nowhere, hey let's get back together, I'd have to say no, for the sake of my dignity. You can't just single handedly decide when a relationship is going to be happening and when it's not, based on how it's going for you. Unfortunately the girl who was just dumped is still clinging on, hoping her guy will have a change of heart and want her back, and of course she'll go along with it. Makes me disgusted, and disappointed in people.

And yeah, of course I wouldn't mind being a rebound here, but I know that would be wrong (I'm also friends with the guy who dumped her) and I don't need the bad karma.

What do you think about breakups like this?

[darkeasterbunny]

Seems to me your a hypocryte


Your doing the same as here, clinging to past love, going back to the one that hurt you moment they wink, and you think in her case it's disgusting.


Grow up, move on

[whocares123]

Seems to me your a hypocryte


Your doing the same as here, clinging to past love, going back to the one that hurt you moment they wink, and you think in her case it's disgusting.


Grow up, move on

I'm not clinging to past love. What?

[parkus]

He probably found someone else, or a few girls who he wants to fuck.

If he is 'tied down' in a relationship, he can't fuck them.
So basically, when they say they don't want to be tied down in a relationship, it means they want to be able to play the field.

[whocares123]

He probably found someone else, or a few girls who he wants to fuck.

If he is 'tied down' in a relationship, he can't fuck them.
So basically, when they say they don't want to be tied down in a relationship, it means they want to be able to play the field.

Actually in this case, that guy has nothing. No options whatsoever. He's not even a good looking guy. A casual observer would think the girl would be the one to break up with him.

Fuck it.

[ergoat]

It's a lie. No one does something for no reason. He's bullshitting her so he doesn't have to tell her the real reason.

[Cójale]

I really don't understand either. One day its all hunky dory, the next you sense something off and if you press the issue, bam, "lets just be friends" or some bullshit. I actually had that exact line used on me. I said no, she cried, I drove away and cried. Really sucked.

[Chris]

the relationship prolly went stale to him, so he bailed.

[Nefret]

I think it's perfectly reasonable to break up just because you feel like it's time. I broke up with my last boyfriend because, even though I loved him more than I'd ever experienced with a significant other, I needed to experience different people. With him I felt like we could stay together forever, and I didn't want to get married to a guy I'd met when I was 20. There were also other factors like he was pretty depressed with his housing a school situation, he was planning on moving 1.5 hours away and I didn't think I could handle doing long distance again, we were starting to fight more often, and our sex life was drastically slowing down. There doesn't have to be one giant reason to end a relationship. It can be a conglomerate of problems.

[coastal progress]

Fuck it.

Indeed.

[WAN]

See, the same thing happened to me a few months ago, so then when it happened to her, I thought this would give us a chance to reconnect and vent about our similar situations. I miss my most recent ex-girlfriend, but I know if she were to say to me, again out of nowhere, hey let's get back together, I'd have to say no, for the sake of my dignity. You can't just single handedly decide when a relationship is going to be happening and when it's not, based on how it's going for you. Unfortunately the girl who was just dumped is still clinging on, hoping her guy will have a change of heart and want her back, and of course she'll go along with it. Makes me disgusted, and disappointed in people.


Why though?

Maybe she still loves him? There is nothing wrong with wanting to be re-united with someone you like/love.

[Obelisk]

This girl I used to date several years ago just got dumped by her current boyfriend of over a year, seemingly for no reason other than he didn't want to be tied down in a relationship. To me, that's such a stupid fucking reason

Sounds like he had a reason.

[whocares123]

Sounds like he had a reason.

But the guy has nothing else going for him. He's been bored lately I guess.

Nefret, my point is problems like those can be worked out. It just seems like some people come across a few problems in their relationship, problems every relationship has, and they freak out and just end it rather than work to make things better. If you really did love that guy, how the fuck could you do that? To me, "experience other people" is a nice way of saying "I haven't sucked enough cocks in my life, so I want to go out and suck some and then maybe in a few years I'll come back, find that guy again, and be like 'k, now I've sucked enough cocks and I guess I'm ready to settle down with you.' and he'll agree cause he's my bitch."

We've gone from people having an average of one sexual partner their whole life to at least several. Modern times are strange if you compare them to the past. Hell, even 50 years ago, someone you met when you were 20 would be the perfect age to be together forever. And then if it really was so great, why would you give all of that up just so you could go out and party? People irritate me sometimes with their motives.

[rustyshackleford420]

I broke up with my girlfriend for pretty much the same reason. I was starting to feel bored, and I didn't like being tied down. And now I have a lot of fun with my guy friends, so I don't regret my decision.

I think it is very reasonable for a guy to just feel like he doesn't want to be in a relationship.

[Lobo]

So , he should of been with his girlfriend even if she doesnt like her anymore , "Just because" aswell ?

Bit ironic aint it ?

[JeffreyH]

A reason?

the thrill is gone - B.B. KING - YouTube

[takedrugs_killpeople]

I think it's perfectly reasonable to break up just because you feel like it's time. I broke up with my last boyfriend because, even though I loved him more than I'd ever experienced with a significant other, I needed to experience different people. With him I felt like we could stay together forever, and I didn't want to get married to a guy I'd met when I was 20. There were also other factors like he was pretty depressed with his housing a school situation, he was planning on moving 1.5 hours away and I didn't think I could handle doing long distance again, we were starting to fight more often, and our sex life was drastically slowing down. There doesn't have to be one giant reason to end a relationship. It can be a conglomerate of problems.

Just because you felt it was time? You then went on to list like 10 reasons. You must be severely confused.

[JeffreyH]

I think it's perfectly reasonable to break up just because you feel like it's time. I broke up with my last boyfriend because, even though I loved him more than I'd ever experienced with a significant other, I needed to experience different people. With him I felt like we could stay together forever, and I didn't want to get married to a guy I'd met when I was 20. There were also other factors like he was pretty depressed with his housing a school situation, he was planning on moving 1.5 hours away and I didn't think I could handle doing long distance again, we were starting to fight more often, and our sex life was drastically slowing down. There doesn't have to be one giant reason to end a relationship. It can be a conglomerate of problems.

Breaking up with someone you love when they are going through tough times in their lives just because "it is time" is really low.

[MrSinister]

So basically, when they say they don't want to be tied down in a relationship, it means they want to be able to play the field.

This. And why do you care? It's not like he broke up with you?

[Mirana]

Yeah well tons of people are immature, it's a fact. People give up the good things for a little satisfaction in the short future. Then in no time they're bored and want things back the way they were.

Then, the person the receiving end is also an immature person who agrees with it and gets back together. Which goes into a endless cycle of bullshit for years.

Oh yeah I guess I'm coming off with a 1950's church going attitude. But I don't care, I've dealt with that stupid shit when I was 13 with girls, constantly jumping 1 to the other. I'm in my 20's now and just don't wanna deal with that relationship crap with another person again. If things are boring then make it INTERESTING. If you can't do that, then maybe you're the boring one? -_-

OP you are trying to analyze a situation involving two people who act like children when they can't get exactly what they want. Just forget about it and move on, find people who don't revolve around drama.

[shopping cart for brains]

The girl I was dating just told me she didn't want to be with me anymore. She told me by ignoring me for three weeks, then using facebook to show me she was "in a relationship" with someone else.

fkken a, man

[dephdiddy]

It's a fact of life, relationships end. It is important to remember that
this is always one persons fault. More importantly, do not forget to get MAD! Getting angry serves a valuable purpose, it shows others that you are in fact not yet a robot, and you are MAD that it is over with your psycho/crazy/asshole/bitch ex-boy or girl friend.
All of the friends luckily enough to observe this comfortable situation
will understand completely. Hey, you know what they say: It is reasonable to expect rational understanding and growth of someone you have repeatedly
observed and reported to hundreds of people to be void of these precise traits.
While it may be tough, remind yourself to never let humility or responsibility enter into this realm, it's neither appropriate nor warranted
and frankly nobody wants to hear it.