Flirting pointers?

[blackflagnirvana]

Sooo I'm gonna be hanging out with this girl I haven't seen in a while later on this week. I am pretty confident about it but sometimes I have trouble with initiating flirting or sexual things and shit like that. I think I don't do a good enough job of the subtle flirting which is important.

So what are some good ways to subtly give hints that I like her?? I just want to know like just how to do it in bits at a time and just eat away at any awkwardness and get to the good stuff. Advice?

[Venatio Vos]

I always found it was much more important to get comfortable touching someone the subtle flirting. So long as you're not in the "friends zone" it is the easiest thing in the world to go from hugging someone to kissing them.

[Warped Mindless]

Sooo I'm gonna be hanging out with this girl I haven't seen in a while later on this week. I am pretty confident about it but sometimes I have trouble with initiating flirting or sexual things and shit like that. I think I don't do a good enough job of the subtle flirting which is important.

So what are some good ways to subtly give hints that I like her?? I just want to know like just how to do it in bits at a time and just eat away at any awkwardness and get to the good stuff. Advice?

Be Sexual!

[ShutMeUp]

Be funny and witty, but subtly so. And another vote for the touching thing.

[Afromonk]

Make sure you have lots to talk about.
Yourself, clothes, music. her etc
Be really confident but not arrogant.

Placement of body as well.
Too "south" shows a pure sexual interest only too far "north" implies friends only.
Both are bad.
So make sure bodies and hands stay both close and positioned well.

:)

Send her cute smiles and looks when shes pretending not to notice.
They do and it will be appreciated.
:)

Part from that its all you and her.
IF its akward then don't carry on with her.
:)

[Venatio Vos]

Too "south" shows a pure sexual interest only too far "north" implies friends only.


I've got no idea what the fuck you're talking about.

[Agent 008]

I've got no idea what the fuck you're talking about.

This.

Also, find sexual innuendo in everything she says and tease her about it. Even if she was meaning something completely innocent, accuse her of being the "naughty" one in a playful matter. Avoid using sexual innuendo yourself, use it "through" her.

That's one fun way of doing it anyway.

[parkus]

Smile and laugh often.. show you are enjoying spending time with her. If you both are laughing and look at each other, and the chemistry between you two are right, then a kiss is inevitable.

[xxombie]

Don't over think it or you'll probably make a fool of yourself.

Just be confident. So cliche but it's the biggest thing ever. And then just do what's natural. If you're attracted to her she'll pick that up. Talk to her and spend time with her.

[Agent 008]

And then just do what's natural.

^ And that means decide what you want to happen, and then make it happen but make it look natural and make her feel as if she's being "swept away by the moment".

[Transparent]

This.

Also, find sexual innuendo in everything she says and tease her about it. Even if she was meaning something completely innocent, accuse her of being the "naughty" one in a playful matter. Avoid using sexual innuendo yourself, use it "through" her.

That's one fun way of doing it anyway.

This works sometimes, but the girl may end up thinking you just want to get in her pants. You need to be more coy about it. Don't jump on every obviously innocent statement, because then you look like you're blatantly trying to turn it sexual. Make a semi-dirty remark to her statement. So she'll realize that you may have made a sexual hint, but she won't know for sure.

[Warped Mindless]

This works sometimes, but the girl may end up thinking you just want to get in her pants. You need to be more coy about it. Don't jump on every obviously innocent statement, because then you look like you're blatantly trying to turn it sexual. Make a semi-dirty remark to her statement. So she'll realize that you may have made a sexual hint, but she won't know for sure.

Well said. I sometimes like to throw girls mixed signals. Sometimes I'm very direct with my intentions and other times I want to keep them guessing if I like them.

[yixil]

I tend to more find myself flirting with girls than doing it on purpose, but maybe that's because I prefer to have them approach me.

[blackflagnirvana]

K thanks for the tips, I don't want to over analyze too much but I think I'll be alright if I just chill and not be a little bitch. So we'll see what happens, also this girl is kinda intellectual type, what would be something to research so I could talk about it and look smart? :D

[Mor3BL7]

Sooo I'm gonna be hanging out with this girl I haven't seen in a while later on this week. I am pretty confident about it but sometimes I have trouble with initiating flirting or sexual things and shit like that. I think I don't do a good enough job of the subtle flirting which is important.

So what are some good ways to subtly give hints that I like her?? I just want to know like just how to do it in bits at a time and just eat away at any awkwardness and get to the good stuff. Advice?

suck her nipples, diddle her twat, ftw.

[yixil]

K thanks for the tips, I don't want to over analyze too much but I think I'll be alright if I just chill and not be a little bitch. So we'll see what happens, also this girl is kinda intellectual type, what would be something to research so I could talk about it and look smart? :D

If she's smart, she'll know you only have a superficial knowledge of something and you're posing. Don't worry about it, plenty of smart girls get with complete morons.

/not saying you're a complete moron

[RoundElephant]

suck her nipples, diddle her twat, ftw.

true that.

[Thelostcup]

I flirt best when I'm not even aware I'm doing it.

[Purple Sprite]

who the fuck flirts? around where I'm from, it's straight motherfuckin' gunplay nigga. You see something. You want it? You take it.

[aliveupboy]

who the fuck flirts? around where I'm from, it's straight motherfuckin' gunplay nigga. You see something. You want it? You take it.

That's incredibly stupid.

[Obelisk]

suck her nipples, diddle her twat, ftw.

9.5/10 for effectiveness but 1/10 for being subtle about it.

[HeWhoNeverSleeps]

who the fuck flirts? around where I'm from, it's straight motherfuckin' gunplay nigga. You see something. You want it? You take it.


You just shut the fuck up you silly fucking quack you..:rolleyes:

[blackflagnirvana]

who the fuck flirts? around where I'm from, it's straight motherfuckin' gunplay nigga. You see something. You want it? You take it.

Date rape drugs FTW

[Purple Sprite]

Fuck all you haters, I'm rolling in pussy.

[mutual]

ok so one thing you definetely do is ask her questions more then talking about yourself. Just start asking her every stupid question you can think of, the more odd usually gets a laugh. Such as whos your favorite superhero. Just let her talk. Then when she gets comfortable because shes not sitting straight up with her hands together just start joking around about anything. O and if shes fishing for compliments go ahead and give her a couple. Then depends on you if your shy just tickle her a little around the waist. If your bold hell start with running your fingers down her arm. Either way works. Id say if shes not expecting a kiss dont dive in unless your both drunk.

[WAN]

This.

Also, find sexual innuendo in everything she says and tease her about it. Even if she was meaning something completely innocent, accuse her of being the "naughty" one in a playful matter. Avoid using sexual innuendo yourself, use it "through" her.

That's one fun way of doing it anyway.

^ And that means decide what you want to happen, and then make it happen but make it look natural and make her feel as if she's being "swept away by the moment".

uhm

Please realise that what I am about to say, it's not against you personally, but rather focused on what you say.

Your advice, while they are technically not stupid, just smack me of being "laboured", or how should I put it, overly analyzed, that you put too much thought into them to make them sound "good".

This combined with the fact that you have no real experience (you mentioned that you have never had sex/dated, or some such), it just seems so...creepy and disturbing.

I hope I didn't hurt your feelings or anything; I don't have anything against you. It's just how it really makes me feel.

If she's smart, she'll know you only have a superficial knowledge of something and you're posing. Don't worry about it, plenty of smart girls get with complete morons.

/not saying you're a complete moron

A lot of sense is being made here.

While I agree that you probably would do well NOT sounding like a moron in front of a girl (doesn't matter if she's smart or not), there are things equally, if not more important than intelligence that play in a role in attraction.

That's incredibly stupid.

Maybe he framed it in a stupid way. I kind of agree with his sentiment. It is my humble opinion that if you like somebody, you should be upfront about it. None of that stupid, beat around the bush, testing the water, being coy, "LAWL guess how i feel about j00!!!" stupid games some people tend to play.

Date rape drugs FTW

lol this!

omfg where is that pic of roofie? We absolutely need it on this board too

Fuck all you haters, I'm rolling in pussy.

Must be quite a big one for you to be rolling in.

[Nitronick]

Act like Vegeta.

[Psychotic_Rave]

Be Sexual!

This!

[colorsoc]

.................................................. ...............It's just how it really makes me feel.

Totally something a fat chick would say.

[Awkibo]

Don't over think it or you'll probably make a fool of yourself.

Just be confident. So cliche but it's the biggest thing ever. And then just do what's natural. If you're attracted to her she'll pick that up. Talk to her and spend time with her.

how come whenever I act natural, girls want me to be their friend. and then tell me all their secrets, and then talk to me about boys they like.

I mean hell, I'm going on a date this weekend, still don't know if this girl already sees me as friend material or not.

[Agent 008]

how come whenever I act natural, girls want me to be their friend. and then tell me all their secrets, and then talk to me about boys they like.

I mean hell, I'm going on a date this weekend, still don't know if this girl already sees me as friend material or not.

It might have something to do with your signature being bigger than your posts.

[Awkibo]

It might have something to do with your signature being bigger than your posts.

somehow I don't think it has anything to do with that.
I become friends quite easily with people, girls especially. Must be the fact that I'm not intimidating and can actually have conversations. It's normally great, since I can go anyplace say a few words and have some buddies/ladyfriends.
The downside of course is that once a woman see's you as a friend it's damn hard to say, hey lets fuck, 'cause god knows after that a friendship is nigh impossible. One could make the argument that my friendship is dear to them and they wouldn't want to lose that magic, and I suppose I'm just not "man" enough to tell them that yeah, the only reason I'm friends with you in the first place was because I want to fuck you at some point down the road.

and to make this post a bit longer heres some random smilies.

:tank:

:euro:


thats a tank running over that monopoly guy.

[blackflagnirvana]

So I texted her and asked what she was doing today cause I was just waking up she was like "idk but I'll let you know later for sure" and never called or anything so WTF mate??? :confused:

And the stupid thing is she was the one who asked if I wanted to hang out a couple days ago when I got the number.

[blackflagnirvana]

bump

[Awkibo]

So I texted her and asked what she was doing today cause I was just waking up she was like "idk but I'll let you know later for sure" and never called or anything so WTF mate??? :confused:

And the stupid thing is she was the one who asked if I wanted to hang out a couple days ago when I got the number.

she's a woman, she's therfore going to not care about this as much as you.

[Rykoshet]

bump

Why did you mix a good band with a shitty band?

[Bender]

Yes be funny, kid on the square. Be clever. Use some sexual innuendo. It all depends what shes like. Some girls hate flirting like that, others love it. You have to use your social skills and pick up what kind of girl she is. And choose the right action. Jokes, and innuendo should never hurt if you do it right. Get her to joke along.


So I texted her and asked what she was doing today cause I was just waking up she was like "idk but I'll let you know later for sure" and never called or anything so WTF mate???

And the stupid thing is she was the one who asked if I wanted to hang out a couple days ago when I got the number.


Either three things. Shes blowing you off because shes not that into you. She just honestly forgot, and is lazy. Or like most cases with females (Not to sound sexist) but women can't make plans. Or at least all the ones i've seen and been with. If you ak them what do you want to do. They say "Ohh idk." You have to give her plans, dates and set times. Be assertive.
Most girls like a man that can take charge a little and arrange things. Try it.

[blackflagnirvana]

Alright my plan is just to give her a call tomorrow and see what she is doing and be assertive, I'm just tryin to be chill and not look desperate to hang out so I'm not gonna fret over the non-response.

Why did you mix a good band with a shitty band?

I made up this s/n when I was like 12 and just have kept it for a long time....I like Nirvana a lot better than Black Flag but they're still good.

[Bender]

Alright my plan is just to give her a call tomorrow and see what she is doing and be assertive, I'm just tryin to be chill and not look desperate to hang out so I'm not gonna fret over the non-response.



I made up this s/n when I was like 12 and just have kept it for a long time....I like Nirvana a lot better than Black Flag but they're still good.

Yeah man, don't seem desperate you know? Call her up and be like, "Hey whats goin on." Shes will say nothing. "Yeah, i'm like so bored, hey you wanna go see that new movie down at the theater tonight I heard it was pretty good."

Assertive, but still giving her the option.. ;)