sexual shortcomings of a virgin couple

[Slayre]

so my girlfriend and I are both virgins. we feel comfortable with each other, in the nude and whatnot. but when it comes to sex (which is also natural feeling to us), things get weird with my dick. I have no problem getting hard. However, when it comes time to put the condom on, idk it fucks with me or something and my boner starts falling (sometimes even AS i put the damn thing on which is fucking stupid and kind of painful) The one time that I did manage to stay hard, i asked her to guide me in. Well...her being a virgin and all (though her hymen is already torn) made it difficult and slow and time consuming and...oh look, my boner is gone and now it hurts when you are forcing me in your tiny vagina, slowly, which makes me go flaccid double quick and then I have to rip off the condom in a feeble attempt to get hard again because i can't feel shit with the condom on.

Whats worse is after losing said boner I feel shitty and I fall out of the mood fast. She then tries to get me back up again with her little 'sex tactics' that she read in 17 magazine like "use your tongue and go up and down the bottom side of his shaft" are you fucking kidding me?? that doesnt get me off, which then makes her all "wtf", makes me feel shittier, ergo no boner.
Though recently I've been telling her what to do, which helps. Hooray for blowjobs.

I don't really know whats going on with me. I think masturbating every night to good ol' porn has desensitized me. But I also blame the condom for blocking every nuance of stimulation I could have had in my dick to keep me hard. Well it's a few things really. I'm sure if it didn't take so long to actually get in her vagina (something i've only managed to get the head in) then I would have no problems. she takes it too slow which I understand why but the combination of not feeling shit and the tightness of the condom and the slowness is just awful. Anyway, so i won't be fapping for the next week and i'm going to get some lube for christs sake..

btw the condoms have all been trojans. They are too tight around my girth (oh the fucking pain, goodbye boner) and i can't feel anything with them on. Her friend apparently got pregnant even though her guy was wearing a "lifestyles" condom, which I have, which feels BETTER to me, but she refuses to use for fear of also getting preggo. So that's bullshit but fuck it, w/e.

Umm yeah so what would someone do in my situation? I'm hoping the porn and fapping deprivation will cure this shit but man i think lube is the golden ticket with this girl...

[Blunderstar]

Why can't she just get an abortion and/or take the pill?

[ACE_187]

Originally Posted by Slayre

so my girlfriend and I are both virgins. we feel comfortable with each other, in the nude and whatnot. but when it comes to sex (which is also natural feeling to us), things get weird with my dick. I have no problem getting hard. However, when it comes time to put the condom on, idk it fucks with me or something and my boner starts falling (sometimes even AS i put the damn thing on which is fucking stupid and kind of painful) The one time that I did manage to stay hard, i asked her to guide me in. Well...her being a virgin and all (though her hymen is already torn) made it difficult and slow and time consuming and...oh look, my boner is gone and now it hurts when you are forcing me in your tiny vagina, slowly, which makes me go flaccid double quick and then I have to rip off the condom in a feeble attempt to get hard again because i can't feel shit with the condom on.

Whats worse is after losing said boner I feel shitty and I fall out of the mood fast. She then tries to get me back up again with her little 'sex tactics' that she read in 17 magazine like "use your tongue and go up and down the bottom side of his shaft" are you fucking kidding me?? that doesnt get me off, which then makes her all "wtf", makes me feel shittier, ergo no boner.
Though recently I've been telling her what to do, which helps. Hooray for blowjobs.

I don't really know whats going on with me. I think masturbating every night to good ol' porn has desensitized me. But I also blame the condom for blocking every nuance of stimulation I could have had in my dick to keep me hard. Well it's a few things really. I'm sure if it didn't take so long to actually get in her vagina (something i've only managed to get the head in) then I would have no problems. she takes it too slow which I understand why but the combination of not feeling shit and the tightness of the condom and the slowness is just awful. Anyway, so i won't be fapping for the next week and i'm going to get some lube for christs sake..

btw the condoms have all been trojans. They are too tight around my girth (oh the fucking pain, goodbye boner) and i can't feel anything with them on. Her friend apparently got pregnant even though her guy was wearing a "lifestyles" condom, which I have, which feels BETTER to me, but she refuses to use for fear of also getting preggo. So that's bullshit but fuck it, w/e.

Umm yeah so what would someone do in my situation? I'm hoping the porn and fapping deprivation will cure this shit but man i think lube is the golden ticket with this girl...

Porn is one thing but most likely the problem is you are thinking too much. Talk her out of using condoms. Refuse to have sex with her with one. Then just don't plan on doing anything, just let it happen. Or maybe you aren't really attracted to her

EDIT: Don't make things out to be bigger or more complicated than they are.

[Slayre]

She will start taking the pill sometime next week and she tells me it takes like a month to "start working" or something so that's more of a long term thing.

I've mentioned not using condoms to which she simply refuses

You know I've actually considered that I might somehow not be attracted to her, but I generally am so idk about that one

thinking too much seems more plausible. i'm always thinking and gauging her reactions and shit. i also find myself losing the boner while I eat her out. which personally i found strange because i thought i would have liked doing that..

[ACE_187]

Originally Posted by Slayre

She will start taking the pill sometime next week and she tells me it takes like a month to "start working" or something so that's more of a long term thing.

I've mentioned not using condoms to which she simply refuses

You know I've actually considered that I might somehow not be attracted to her, but I generally am so idk about that one.

This has happened to me when I think about sex too much. I can almost promise you this is what it is. Like if a girl says we are going to fuck tonight, I can think about it all day then it will be a problem but if we plan on "watching a movie" my dick will stay hard the whole time tryin to get her to fuck and when we do it's no problem.

Kind of like fighting. It's best to just do it and not over analyze or you'll psyche yourself out.

If the condoms really bother you, and you think you could do better anyway I'd just threaten to leave her. Girls have tried to get me when I didnt want to and I'd just refuse to have sex. They expected me to give in but I didn't, and the second time (at the most) I was with them they'd give in.

[The Cheshire Cat]

You're just too nervous and taking your sweet ass time getting in. That gives you too much time to think and psych yourself out. My suggest, get hard and fucking go for it. Slamming it in there right away will only hurt her for a second, and that'll help you get over your dick issues.

[crazzyass]

Jesus Christ ignore everyone in this fucking thread.


Use a goddamn condom. Here's what you need to do: go to the pharmacy and buy one of every type of condom. Condoms are supposed to be tight, but not painfully tight. Get some magnums too. Try each of them on. Masturbate with them, see which one fits best and has the best sensation.


Then use that + lube.


But use a goddamn condom. Seriously.

[Slayre]

Use a goddamn condom. Here's what you need to do: go to the pharmacy and buy one of every type of condom. Condoms are supposed to be tight, but not painfully tight. Get some magnums too. Try each of them on. Masturbate with them, see which one fits best and has the best sensation.


Then use that + lube.

i will try this.

i guess i'll try not to think too much about it too. Yeah i think I would do better if it was more 'spur of the moment' type thing mostly because i find it hotter but yeah

[McTaggot]

try loosening her pussy with your fingers for about a minute or two, start with one finger, then try to get 2 or three fingers in there, then take control and put your dick straight into her. Don't let her try doing it herself, female virgins have no fucking clue what the fuck they should be doing.

[Slayre]

i dont know if i should believe that, i mean it is her vagina. but what do I know. the fingers sound like it would help alot though.

[typedthiswithmytits]

Buy that bitch a pack of condoms and bananas and tell her dumb ass to perfect putting the condom on with her mouth.

[McTaggot]

Go down on her, get her lying on her back on a bed or sitting in a chair, then start licking her from the ground, stretching her pussy with your fingers. Then, with no warning, jump up, grab her legs, pull her close up to you and FORCE her pussy to stretch to the size it needs to be to fit your cock comfortably by ramming your cock into it. Done.

Wait... Why do you need to FORCE your cock in there? It shouldn't be that hard... might be some other problem if it physically won't fit... is she just reacting badly to the pain or what?

[Ghost Buster]

Perhaps the problem is that you are naturally attracted to cock?

lulz. I'm glad I've never had an E.D. issue.

Seriously though I dunno what the problem is, you're probably thinking about it too much? I find it hard to believe that happens to guys, sometimes I wake up with a boner and have to piss but don't want to piss with a boner so I try to think that shit away. Its like trying to bend a spoon with your mind. Not an easy task to lose wood imo.

E: Maybe you are jerking off too much. Try not jerking off until you are crazy horny. If you still loose wood you're pretty much officially gay. Or maybe your gf is ugly.

[The Duke]

Def try some magnums. Too tight condoms kill my erection.

[Mantikore]

The condom isnt the problem

[Ghost Buster]

Originally Posted by Mantikore

The condom isnt the problem

Condoms are the problem. Even if he manages to keep it up its still going to feel like hes fucking a rubber sock because condoms suck balls.

OP ditch that shit and cum in gfs mouth or ass. That's the ancient birth control.

[STD]

get some fucking viagra dude, take 50-100mg on an empty stomach. a little alcohol helps with the nerves, but don't get drunk or you might have trouble getting it up.

[McTaggot]

Originally Posted by STD

get some fucking viagra dude, take 50-100mg on an empty stomach. a little alcohol helps with the nerves, but don't get drunk or you might have trouble getting it up.

Classic STD having erectile disfuntions.

[roasted]

If your girlfriend is reading '17' you should probably use a condom regardless if she's on the pill.

I prescribe: less pussititus and more alpha male. Everything in life should fall into 1 of 3 categories: Eat, Fuck, or Kill. If you cant figure out what to do with your g/f then you probably deserve to be a virgin.

[Jaxxun]

Watch a fucking virgin porno and take notes.

Holy god, this shit isn't complicated. Take a few minutes to get her comfortable, position your dick, and push. Don't try to be a gentleman by pushing at a slow pace and hoping it breaks. That's fucking stupid and only makes it worse on her. Just push it in with enough force to break her hymen, it only has to hurt once.

As for your ED issues, go with a thinner condom or go in without one first(provided you can keep yourself from coming in the first 10 seconds). After things get under way, slip one on.

Jeezis, kids these days...

[Tokerface]

op is a massive faggot.

[Mr.Happy]

Quit masturbating. Just don't do it, at all. It's not even that hard, it just feels like it is. No edging or porn either. It's got a hundred benefits.

I had this exact problem with one specific girl (just one) and I eventually figured out that it was simply because I wasn't actually very attracted to her. It's the obvious cause that's never mentioned in ED treatment; is your girlfriend hot? If it was somebody else with her body, would it make you hard?

[Mor3BL7]

anal her LOL!

[Proots]

You're over thinking it, man. Seriously. Look at how many people in this thread feel that's exactly what it is. There has to be some truth to that. Find a condom type that's comfortable for you, use that one - and just relax. It's just you and your girl. There's nothing to be worried about.

Just chill.

[McTaggot]

Relaxing is seriously the biggest thing, anything is better than your normal situation, so who cares what happens. Next is to get your dick in without a huge fuckaround, just shove it in. Abstaining fom sexual stimulation till she is fully up on the pill can't hurt either.

[Mutant Funk Drink]

Lifestyles condoms are some of the worst. I know I've said this before, but I recommend Trojan Supras. They're a few bucks more, but they're made of polyurethane and they feel way better than latex condoms. Plus they don't smell weird, and they don't squeeze the shit out of your dick. If you haven't, give them a try. Not all stores sell them, so you might have to venture into a sex shop for them.

By the way, have you suggested birth control to her? There are a few ways to make it sound appealing to her aside from the fact that raw sex is way better. Tell her to read up about how birth control pills can be used to control her periods and make them less intense. Birth control pills may also increase vaginal lubrication and decrease the chance of non-cancerous growths in the breast.

[Oink The Pig]

Jesus fucking christ mate. Drink some fucking alcohol. Or smoke some weed. Seriously, both of you. Then just get it on. It will be even more of a mess of a fuck but what could you expect.

If this shit was rocket science there wouldnt be so many people on earth now would there... its one of those things that anyone that can do, can do. It doesnt take any sort of intelligence really.

[Mutant Funk Drink]

Alcohol is not a good idea, unless only the girl is drinking it. Alcohol actually reduces the male erectile function; on the other hand, it actually makes women hornier.

[Oink The Pig]

Originally Posted by Mutant Funk Drink

Alcohol is not a good idea, unless only the girl is drinking it. Alcohol actually reduces the male erectile function; on the other hand, it actually makes women hornier.

The males..... whats the fuck with talking like some old scientist. I didnt say get proper drunk, just have some alcohol, whatevers fine with them, split a bottle or 2 of wine or something.

And anyway if his problems are from anxiety then it would totally fix it all up. Unless he gets psyched about what you just posted and then its a self defeating thing. In which case just get intoxicated enough that nothing will be on your mind except getting the job done. Plus if it ends up failing in the end well, hes back to where he already was anyway

im more than willing to bet at least half of the population in the western world loses their virginity on a lot of alcohol anyway.

[kingOfCrash]

The porn is the biggest problem. Cut that out first and see if it helps. Give it time. If that doesn't help, cut out masturbating. That will probably do the trick. If that doesn't totally do it, start doing kegel exercises.

Always use a condom during vaginal intercourse. ALWAYS, unless you want a baby.

[Motherfucking_Toast]

ITT: Virgins give sex advice to other virgins.

[TORTILLA]

Sounds like shes ready for anal.

[jator]

You might wana try it out with guys man, I hate to say it but women don't sound like your thing, viiirrggiiiinnnnnn.

[Tokerface]

Originally Posted by Slayre

so my girlfriend and I are both virgins. we feel comfortable with each other, in the nude and whatnot. but when it comes to sex (which is also natural feeling to us), things get weird with my dick. I have no problem getting hard. However, when it comes time to put the condom on, idk it fucks with me or something and my boner starts falling (sometimes even AS i put the damn thing on which is fucking stupid and kind of painful) The one time that I did manage to stay hard, i asked her to guide me in. Well...her being a virgin and all (though her hymen is already torn) made it difficult and slow and time consuming and...oh look, my boner is gone and now it hurts when you are forcing me in your tiny vagina, slowly, which makes me go flaccid double quick and then I have to rip off the condom in a feeble attempt to get hard again because i can't feel shit with the condom on.

Whats worse is after losing said boner I feel shitty and I fall out of the mood fast. She then tries to get me back up again with her little 'sex tactics' that she read in 17 magazine like "use your tongue and go up and down the bottom side of his shaft" are you fucking kidding me?? that doesnt get me off, which then makes her all "wtf", makes me feel shittier, ergo no boner.
Though recently I've been telling her what to do, which helps. Hooray for blowjobs.

I don't really know whats going on with me. I think masturbating every night to good ol' porn has desensitized me. But I also blame the condom for blocking every nuance of stimulation I could have had in my dick to keep me hard. Well it's a few things really. I'm sure if it didn't take so long to actually get in her vagina (something i've only managed to get the head in) then I would have no problems. she takes it too slow which I understand why but the combination of not feeling shit and the tightness of the condom and the slowness is just awful. Anyway, so i won't be fapping for the next week and i'm going to get some lube for christs sake..

btw the condoms have all been trojans. They are too tight around my girth (oh the fucking pain, goodbye boner) and i can't feel anything with them on. Her friend apparently got pregnant even though her guy was wearing a "lifestyles" condom, which I have, which feels BETTER to me, but she refuses to use for fear of also getting preggo. So that's bullshit but fuck it, w/e.

Umm yeah so what would someone do in my situation? I'm hoping the porn and fapping deprivation will cure this shit but man i think lube is the golden ticket with this girl...

[slicknickns]

Has she seen your cock yet?














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[JeffreyH]

1). Get these condoms: http://www.britishcondoms.co.uk/thin...n-condoms.html
They are awesome.

2). Don't masturbate or look at porn for the next month. Your sensors need to adjust to a real woman. See her when you get horny, but still avoid porn.

3). Be advised that anger is fear announced. Don't get angry or annoyed, it makes things worse, always. You both should have a good sense of humour about everything that happens in the bedroom.
If you are not performing at your best that day, it happens - just put on

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, the joke's on her.

4). Don't go without a condom, and don't take any chances.

[Akagi]

Fuck pills & condoms, just get a nuvo ring or take her to get a depo-provera shot for like $35 and make sure you watch it being administered.

[L33tz]

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don't use a condom.

[Mr.Happy]

Originally Posted by Mutant Funk Drink

Alcohol is not a good idea, unless only the girl is drinking it. Alcohol actually reduces the male erectile function; on the other hand, it actually makes women hornier.

Alcohol helps me to relax during sex. Sometimes I'll worry about maintaining a hard-on; it's never normally a problem, but if you start thinking about it, it is. I prefer to have sex after a few drinks... if anything, it makes me harder. Alcohol decreases blood pressure and so can interfere with erectile function, but that's not the only issue here.

I was hammered my first time and kept it up for an hour solid. I was pretty drunk last night (5 vodkas, a solitary beer and 4-5 measures of Scotch over a couple of hours) and had no problems whatsoever, whereas I was kind of up and down before the drinks (and tense because of it)

The thing about hard-on problems is that it's only an issue when your mind is on it. Forgetting about it and not worrying is the only really important thing, in my experience. Easier said than done, I know.

OP, seriously, it's not a big deal. I had difficulty getting hard with my first girlfriend when I was 15 or so; I went soft during a terrible handjob and after that, I built it up into an issue in my mind. Same thing happened with another girl the best part of a year ago; had the same condom issue as you, handled it badly and couldn't relax in bed with her since. Don't build it up into an issue - it's natural, it's normal, it happens. Just go with the flow, mess around, go down on her or play with each other or whatever. No expectations.