How far do I have to go...?

[Nameraca]

Sup bitches and fucktards, also, hello, intelligent people of zoklet (2%).

So if you remember a thread I made in.... by... end of December 2011 (you probably don't) I was banging my head on this computer network problem while talking about an asian sex kitten friend of my sister with my sister and her crazy roomate.

This ended up with me getting drunk (or maybe not I chose to stop drinking back then, don,t remember fuck this, let's pretend I was drunk), back home, and crying on Zoklet, then subsequently having someone link me Psycho-Cybernetics and then curing me of any depressive behaviour I had left, also making me normal. Then, Gurren-Lagann happened, with me making a thread about it's size. Man it's fucking huge.

Anyway here is the thread in which I was linked to Psycho Cybernetics:

http://www.zoklet.net/bbs/showthread.php?t=216597

(The gurren lagann thread is irrelevant)

Anyway, since then I've changed my mind. I've found out the seduction community only talks about bullcrap and it's not about attitude (FOR SIMPLE SEXUAL ATTRACTION) but only looks (and not beauty: Looks and genetic compatibility) but this isn't the point of the thread. (BTW LINK TO THIS: http://www.seductionmyth.com/reality_check/her-type/ )

I wonder how far I need to go.

Now, I study accounting, shit goes well. Now I hang out with two girls at school, but both are taken and I wouldn't do them anyway. One's a freak and 32, the other I went to high school with while I was depressive so shit's awkward since we never talked back then anyway. So it's just funs and games and lols. I breath their second hand smoke during breaks.

But that's not the point. The point is, finally I get to hang out with girls. Shit's better. But not to the point I want.

So, yeah. I can't meet new chicks.

At school, social circles develop. Ok, that's cool, but it stays small and pretty much develop from within the class room.

But now... what do I do?

Some people advised me to go and start doing a sport. Since I like parkour, they proposed I start rock climbing/indoor climbing. (Parkour, at least with my group, is quite closed to outsiders and predominantly male)

But shit's awkward. I don't know. And that's the problem. I go in there, then what? I need to go inside a place, with all these new rules and processes, the cliques... not knowing if they'll accept me, not even knowing if there will be women... Money could be wasted.

The 30 something freak I hang with, her boyfriend is gifted/high potential adult. And she said, the same thing someone else said to me earlier "you never really fail at anything, do you" Me: "well... not really..." "you're probably gifted. My BF is. Look it up on the internet, you can start with this site... *links website*". So I did, and it was helpful. I know where I come from, and why I think differently. The root cause of everything in my life, and I can tackle learning much more easily now.

This doesn't solve the problem of meeting girls. In fact, the problem is that I can't get a clear idea of my situation. I do not know where I stand, what I must do, what I should do.

Dating sites give nothing. People don't reply. I'm done taking 30 mins to write a nice message.

So... how should I do stuff?

I suppose I should tell you a bit about what I like to do:

Main interests: Anime, videogames, philosophy, politics, religion… reading. I read a lot but mostly documentary-kinda stuff. And I like interesting discussions – that does mean they have their bit of fun in them too. Dynamic, interesting, stimulating…

As for sports, I don’t like team or vs sports. I like parkour because it challenges me as an individual to improve and be better – against the environment. There is no competition and it's exhausting, relaxing, and works the whole body.

Another thing I like is the outdoors. I’d definitly go out more often hiking, camping and stuff if I knew people who liked to, and had a car. My friends likes to, sometimes, but are also busy, and we have little car issues, that should be fixed soon.

I have difficulty finding something I like to do then finding a group to do it with.

Pisses me off.

Just want to get laid... WITHOUT PAYING. With someone attracted to me. Fine, I made changes and shaped myself into a better person, now I have a much easier time in society but... I have it all, except what I want.

I thank those providing me with useful feedback and ideas.
I thank those flaming and insulting for the lols they bring me.

TLDR: Can't meet girls, where to meet girls to bang. No prostitutes. Nice girls. Seriously read the fucking post you lazy ass fuck.

[WAN]

ok i KNOW this is no help to you but i am gonna say it anyway:

if you can't meet interesting girls//potential dating material type girls at uni, it's gonna be even harder once your in the work force...unless you work in some sort of professional field where your colleagues are more or less on the same level as you intellectually speaking. but even then, as people grow older they also tend to be attached.

i currently work at a car parts store and surrounded by foul-mouthed, rough-edged, ill-bred idiots all day long. i really wish i had just grabbed the first penis that came along when i was still in uni.

[Slayre]

somehow manipulate the girls you work with to introduce you to girls they know.

[cronic5]

I stopped reading at "Sup".

[Synopix]

Holy fuck tl;dr

[HelloClarice]

Originally Posted by Slayre

somehow manipulate the girls you work with to introduce you to girls they know.

this, minus the manipulation. i'm sure at least one of the girls you know could introduce you to a friend or two of hers, especially if your platonic female friends think highly of you. nothing makes a girl feel better about meeting a new guy than an endorsement from her friends that this guy isn't a dick.

[WAN]

^yes.

Also, I just read it again and realized OP said he might be or is gifted. If this is true then it might be hard for him to find girls on his level even in uni..

[felonious_monk]

just stop being such a nerd. or find a nerdy girl.

sry i read just like the part where u said u liked anime so like I'm picturing a hella nerdy guy

[Xlite]

Post pics, and then i'l give you one or multiple reasons why you're not getting laid.

[Sleep Is A Curse]

Stop thinking so much? You're writing style reflects the incessant mental chatter that typifies your problem. There is no guide book, no one can walk you through this. You'll have to take a chance, get hurt, come crying back to zoklet like we all do and hopefully by the end of it all you'll have grown and pushed your limits.

Time to see what you learned on earth.

[WAN]

OP should try to become blonde

edit: I am serious; blonde guys gets more girls. this is what my bulgarian assistant manager told me, he's blonde, you know

[Sleep Is A Curse]

^ I think simple statistics defeats that claim.

[WAN]

Originally Posted by Sleep Is A Curse

^ I think simple statistics defeats that claim.

what do you mean? are you talking about the fact that there are more dark haired people than blonde ones? that's because only caucasian people can be blonde and the rest of the world is naturally dark haired. besides, blonde-ness is a recessive trait so that makes it even more rare.

[Sleep Is A Curse]

I think china and India both disprove that blondes get more women. Blondes make up like 1 percent or less of the global community? Nothing against blondes, mind you.

That's besides the point. OP has serious mental issues that cosmetic changes won't help. His outlook is fucked and that's where the issue lies.

[47 47 47]

Originally Posted by Nameraca

TLDR: Can't meet girls, where to meet girls to bang. No prostitutes. Nice girls. Seriously read the fucking post you lazy ass fuck.

Go out and figure it out for yourself you lazy ass fuck. Nothing anybody tells you here will help more than figuring shit out for yourself.
But if that is too hard for you...
Quit being a fucking bitch and go to a bar, go to a fuckin party, make more fuckin guy friends who will then have other girls to talk to. Its pretty damn simple. Talk to more people.

[psychomanthis]

TL;DR

[p6867]

Whenever i hear the words 'seduction community' I just assume all parties involved are fucking losers and stop paying attention.

[WAN]

Originally Posted by Sleep Is A Curse

I think china and India both disprove that blondes get more women. Blondes make up like 1 percent or less of the global community? Nothing against blondes, mind you.

That's besides the point. OP has serious mental issues that cosmetic changes won't help. His outlook is fucked and that's where the issue lies.

There are very few blonde people in China and India because the people there, almost all of them, descended from people who were naturally dark-haired.

Trust me, if you are a blonde white guy and you go to a country say like Taiwan, you would have to beat girls off with a big stick. speaking from personal, first-hand experience.

[Sleep Is A Curse]

Originally Posted by WAN

There are very few blonde people in China and India because the people there, almost all of them, descended from people who were naturally dark-haired.

Trust me, if you are a blonde white guy and you go to a country say like Taiwan, you would have to beat girls off with a big stick. speaking from personal, first-hand experience.

Incredulous. I hear that from everyone who goes to Asia who isn't squinty-eyed, poor or short. I think you're just projecting your love of blue-eyed, blonde white boys onto an entire population of people. Granted, they probably would swarm that fucker, I still doubt that less than 1% of the global population is better at getting women based on their hair colour.

When I think of all the great womanizers I've known, they've all been dark-haired and I grew up in a very racially diverse section of NJ.

But hey, that isn't the point. The OP has a major problem that needs solving.

[WAN]

Originally Posted by Sleep Is A Curse

Incredulous. I hear that from everyone who goes to Asia who isn't squinty-eyed, poor or short. I think you're just projecting your love of blue-eyed, blonde white boys onto an entire population of people. Granted, they probably would swarm that fucker, I still doubt that less than 1% of the global population is better at getting women based on their hair colour.

I am not sure what you are trying to say? Are you saying that blond haired people are so few/rare in Asia is because they cannot compete with dark haired people in terms of reproduction and procreation? If yes, then I have to say you are wrong. The reason there are so few blond haired people is because there never was any blonde haired person/s during the period of time when asian people's ancestors evolved. Vast majority of asians descended from dark haired people. The few blond people in Asia you see nowadays migrated to Asia in relatively recent years, when//after the dark-haired people had proliferated.

Anyway I am not really projecting. I have seen this love for blond people numerous times myself, and have heard it reported by others as well. In fact, it would be strange for a crowd of black haired people to not be fascinated by an extremely rare blonde haired person. I am not even talking about the inherent "hotness" (or lack thereof) of blonde-haired ness, I am talking about it's "rarity" factor, which can be objectively determined.

When I think of all the great womanizers I've known, they've all been dark-haired and I grew up in a very racially diverse section of NJ.

This is because dark haired men have evolved to be charming/smooth/clever or whatever in order to compensate for relative lack of attractiveness in terms of hair colour. For blonde guys, all they have to do to attract women is to have a pulse, and sometimes not even. *cough*

[Sleep Is A Curse]

Originally Posted by WAN

This is because dark haired men have evolved to be charming/smooth/clever or whatever in order to compensate for relative lack of attractiveness in terms of hair colour. For blonde guys, all they have to do to attract women is to have a pulse, and sometimes not even. *cough*

Jeez, you're batshit insane.

[WAN]

Originally Posted by Sleep Is A Curse

Jeez, you're batshit insane.

huh? The part about wanting to fuck dead blond guys is a joke, so lern 2 humor.

the first part is, or could be true, though. Darker haired men need to compensate in some ways for their relatively unattractive hair colour by being better in some other ways. doesn't mean they are inferior, just different.

[Sleep Is A Curse]

I'm a dead blonde guy and the part of my brain that contained humor is gone. So sue me.

[STD]

Well... you're asking the 2% of zoklet users who you say are intelligent. Have you noticed that back in high school, it was the dumb jocks that got laid and the smarter guys that generally didn't? It's because the jocks were too fucking stupid to over-think things. That's a reason I drink, to help shut off my mind.

[-Fuck-]

Originally Posted by Nameraca

Now, I study accounting, shit goes well.

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The only time I truly went for a woman I ended up giving a damn about for months afterwards and learned what "love" felt like was when I was young, had $100 a week from a 2-day weekly job at a liquor store, no school (dropped out) or cares, hung out in the sun, and just put my arm around her when I was high and drunk out of my mind, waiting for 2 of my friends to get a blunt wrap in a convenience store. She was arguing with some guy outside talking shit... looking back it's funny to think this girl I hadnt seen in years I just grabbed, I guess it was the booze. We were both totally classless, unpopular, young, stupid, total outcasts of society, totally unplanned and later that night we were kissing when my friends and her mom left, and she was telling me how mad she was I left her long ago... Little did I know the next 7 months or so were going to be the wildest ride ever...

It helped we had met 2 years prior and dated for a week before I ended up leaving her and going back with an ex gf, which lasted a day and I regretted leaving the first. Hm, my friend was meeting his friend's gf and her cousin, and I came along, and his gf's cousin ended up liking me, and he got pissed about it but then stopped caring I guess, so we ended up dating.

Anyways we ended up going through a lot of great times after this convenience store reunion and that was a loooong time ago, little did I know the greatest days of my life so far. Since then I have gone to a tech school, worked several office jobs, and other, shittier jobs, got my own car and place slept with several woman of all races, ages, sizes, and you know what? I completely fucking am never going to be as happy or carefree as I was when I was with her, broke, penniless, and damn myself for leaving her, especially when my friends are too busy HAVING KIDS and some of them even died or just moved away... It starts to get to you after a while.

Im not gonna go on and on, all I can say is love is stronger than job security or anything in this universe and dont worry because it is your NATURE ITSELF to fit into a woman like the missing piece of the puzzle. If anything, find tantra and be clear on if you want kids or not, and in my opinion that alone will gear you up to find woman is realizing whether you do or dont want kids and weeding out ones who are "afraid of men" or "afraid of love" or whatever because really the reason men go after girls more is because men hold the side of nature that determines:

1) Whether or not to have an erection
2) Whom to stick the erection into
3) Whether or not to pull out, or ejaculate inside of said woman.

Everything within those 3 decisions from where you are now to one of them, is all in your own hands.

I can tell you one hard lesson from my experience with one night stands and steady relationships is that if you think your money, job status, or your personal belongings are worth shit, or you're "preparing to be an upstanding man and father", it can all change so much faster than a woman being with you. And I mean that. When I say I wish I never left her, it's because everything since then has been absolutely meaningless, like walking around in a dream. All the books, games, stuff you can buy can be downloaded and then what the hell are you going to do when you've done all you CANT do with a woman? Yep. Go after women. In fact all you'll want to do is spend time with her, most of the time. Since it's inevitable, and it's nature, I wouldn't worry. Hanging with friends or at home can only get so fun. One word of advice is, it's nice to be in accounting but for gods sakes DO NOT MOVE OUT ALONE unless you really want to sleep with random girls... I personally think it's a waste of money and will not make love easier to find, I had it better when I was younger and flat broke. Dont move out until youre gonna MOVE IN with a girl.

In time your parents and friends will feel bad for you and line you up with someone equally unable to meet new people. Or theyll make fun of you until you do and simply stop going near anyone else for more than work or whatever. Youll get bored with friends, social gatherings, all that and find her... and when you're alone with her... heaven. If you really want it, youll go for it... just gotta realize not every woman is the same or is gonna be perfect, people all have issues but if you have your own needs sorted out then it should be a lot easier to meet girls eventually since everything else in your life will basically be taken care of.

[WAN]

Originally Posted by Sleep Is A Curse

I'm a dead blonde guy and the part of my brain that contained humor is gone. So sue me.

u wish