Dealing with butthurt?

[whocares]

I have to mention that I'm easily butthurt. I'm really sensitive to criticism, and I don't know why, but it's really been bothering me. I get butthurt when other people are better than me, or beat me at something. Whenever I get butthurt, it's like I don't know how to respond. I try to hide it, but the more I do, the more butthurt I appear. Sometimes I don't know how to take criticism, so I interpret them as insults, which results in more butthurt. I don't know why, maybe I'm paranoid. It really gets to me sometimes, and I don't know how to take it.

[giggling stoner]

The answer is to simply stop having anal sex. If thats too much for you to grasp, then do it in more moderation and deal with the pain it brings young grasshopper.

[Oct]

You sound like Gore Vidal.

[whocares]

Originally Posted by giggling stoner

The answer is to simply stop having anal sex. If thats too much for you to grasp, then do it in more moderation and deal with the pain it brings young grasshopper.

I want help, not your life story.

[Malcolm Equis]

the answer is to start taking Testosterone Enanthate at 500mg/week

[Spacecase]

It's really really simple. The thing with insults and all of reality is that regardless of whether or not they are intentional, imagined, true or false, its still just a signal that you interpret.

[Oct]

Just revel in other people's misery, that normally cheers me up.

[JC Denton]

The answer is as simple as stop being an easily butthurt person

Meditate on some cool macho unbutthurtable guy for a few days, and eventually you will become him. You need to recreate your reality tunnel.

"There is a Zen story about a monk who, having failed to achieve "enlightenment" (brain-change) through the normal Zen methods, was told by his teacher to think of nothing but an ox. Day after day after day, the monk thought of the ox, meditated on the ox. Finally, one day, the teacher came to the monk's cell and said, "Come out here -- I want to talk to you."

"I can't get out," the monk said. "My horns won't fit through the door."

I can't get out . . .

You need to get out of your current reality tunnel and into a new and improved one.

[whocares]

Originally Posted by JC Denton

The answer is as simple as stop being an easily butthurt person

Meditate on some cool macho unbutthurtable guy for a few days, and eventually you will become him. You need to recreate your reality tunnel.

"There is a Zen story about a monk who, having failed to achieve "enlightenment" (brain-change) through the normal Zen methods, was told by his teacher to think of nothing but an ox. Day after day after day, the monk thought of the ox, meditated on the ox. Finally, one day, the teacher came to the monk's cell and said, "Come out here -- I want to talk to you."

"I can't get out," the monk said. "My horns won't fit through the door."

I can't get out . . .

You need to get out of your current reality tunnel and into a new and improved one.

It's not that easy. It's easier to say, "Just don't be butthurt." But what if someone did something to intentionally make you butthurt?

[JC Denton]

Originally Posted by whocares

It's not that easy. It's easier to say, "Just don't be butthurt." But what if someone did something to intentionally make you butthurt?

As long as you think and feel that you're an insecure pussy, then that will be your experience. By being in that state of mind, you are is proclaiming to the universe that you desire to maintain it. The universe will give you exactly what you ask for... If you want something, the universe will give you just that. The experience of wanting. Apply that logic to being butthurt.

How are so many other people including your peers, easily unaffected by criticism or insults? You know the type. The way is no big secret. Although it requires some self-discipline.

[crackhead]

Now stop letting people insult you. Also eat steak and lift weights.

[JeffreyH]

Originally Posted by crackhead

Now stop letting people insult you. Also eat steak and lift weights.

If you have lots of time, start with stuff on the left to learn the fundamentals, then proceed to the stuff on the right to apply solid fundamentals to learn how to use them in a "real" fight.

[adhesive tape]

Well curtain rods are not designed to shove into your butt, I figured Elf_OMG's experience would prevent other users from exploring curtain rod sodomy but I guess not. You have no one to blame for your butthurt but yourself.

[Nero]

^Did you really think that was funny?

[Malcolm Equis]

stop caring about it.

[Usama Bin Laden]

Originally Posted by Malcolm Equis

stop caring about it.

Exactly. My friends and I try to uphold the maxim of "give no fucks, except with your dick"... Seems to be working rather well.

[RestStop]

Carry a 9mm Beretta. Works for me.

[Death_Merchant]

You have too much respect for other peoples opinions. Sit and think about each person, mistakes they've made, character flaws, and lose respect. Be little their opinions, and pump your good traits up to yourself.

[ObscuredByClouds]

Who gives a flying fuck about what other people think of you? It's not the words that people are saying to you that is making you feel bad, it is how you let it affect you. They're not doing anything to pureposly hurt you (unless they are), it's all your perception of how they think of you. You have a very low self esteem I think.

I recommend stop calling it being butthurt. You want to come across like you're joking around, but really deep down inside this is an issue that you want to fix and grow stronger from it. So stop saying "HAY GUISE I GET BUTTHURT TOO OFTEN LOLOLOL" because A) It's not really a joke to you and B) You're trying to downplay something that doesn't need to be. You need to be more honest and straight-up. Try something like "I have insecurity issues and I feel like any criticism directed towards me is a personal attack" or "I don't feel happy with who I am", because those are your problems, up front and center.

Why shouldn't you care about what other people think or say about you? Because it doesn't fucking matter! It's true. I know you are probably going to skim this post and not really understand what I mean, but trust me, this whole world is yours to control and play with.

You have trapped yourself in a box. And you have no one to blame but yourself. You've created some sort of personality where certain things wouldn't seem natural to you. When you want to get crazy and act silly with a group of friends, you stop yourself in your mind thinking "that's out of character for me, they might say something", and end up just standing there like an asshole not doing anything spontaneous or interesting. And that's all on you, bro. All of it.

Those people who you are spending so much time thinking about how they think about you have moved on. That comment that that one guy said to you the other day when you did that thing, that you keep thinking about over and over how he sees you and how much he probably thinks you're a dick because of that other time that he said that comment that probably meant something similar, because he thinks that you act like that but really you don't act like that, because that other time when BLAH BLAH BLAH It goes on and on and on. Guess what? That guy, he fucking forgot about it. He doesn't care. And has probably moved on with his life. So why are you still thinking about it so much?

You just gotta learn to not care what other people think of you. I know it's hard, but really, you're making it hard for yourself. I don't know what else to say in this regard.