Can't stay hard

[adrieann]

So I'm with this girl, she's really quite wonderful actually. She's smart, interesting, and sexy. The thing is I can not, for the life of me, maintain an erection while we're having sex. I get it in and it's all dandy, then while we're in the act if I stop for even two seconds it goes away.
I think I know why, but I'm not completely sure.
Before we started having sex I was having sex with my ex-girlfriend and I didn't really feel bad. We were hanging out last night though and she just about raped me. Like it was impossible to say no. I feel horrible about it.

So I go to sleep with the girl I'm with now today and I can't stay hard. She gets all upset and blames herself. I try and tell her it's not her fault, that it's mine. I can't tell her what I did though, I really like her and don't want to ruin it. It's not going to happen again.

Is there anyway to stay hard? I don't think I could handle telling her. Or maybe it's just a medical thing? Even though with the other girl I had no problem whatsoever.

Help me out guysss?

[Myxomatosis]

Kegels?

[psychomanthis]

Karma is a bitch. Impossible to say no my ass, the manly thing ofcourse would be fucking both girls like a boss but the morally correct thing would have been to say the following to your ex: "Fuck off bitch, i'm seeing someone else now."

So there you have it. If you want a solution to your little problem take some viagra and stop crying about it.

[Village Idiot]

I skimmed through the post; the details didn't seem to be important to your condition.

-Are you wearing a condom? If so, take that shit off.
-Are you talking dirty? Is she acting like a dead fish? Talk dirty and tell her to stop being boring if so.
-Try changing your diet, add more protein and caffeine until you are so jittery that you have to fuck something.
-If girls simple do not turn you on anymore, find an alternative thing to fuck.

[BITCH TITZ]

were you sober?

[Xlite]

It could be trust issues, or perhaps you're ashamed of something, which then holds you back.

I've encoutered a similar problem in the past, and the solution was simply to talk about things, show trust, don't rush, and lay off the internetz porn.

Tell her to grap yo junk once ina while just for the fun. Have your dick get used to her touch.

I love girls who do that all of a sudden, its sexeh and feels good bra.

[JeffreyH]

* Give up porn and masturbation and other forms of sexual gratification for a few weeks. You need to adjust to her esp. if she's a new partner.
* It's neither of yours' fault. These things happen.

[STD]

Kegels never did jack shit for me.

A bit of liquor helps you to not be all up in your head, it's called "performance anxiety" for a reason. That said, 50mg of sublingual Viagra or 100mg swallowed normal will mostly fix your problem.

[chilldo]

Do you regularly masturbate to porn? Studies show that many cases of ED in young males are caused by porn addiction.

Once you go cold turkey your brain will go back to normal in a few months

[LilLita]

So you could have sex with the ex but not with the new girl who is great? Sounds like you have an inferiority complex around her. Use a cock ring.

[JeffreyH]

Originally Posted by LilLita

So you could have sex with the ex but not with the new girl who is great? Sounds like you have an inferiority complex around her. Use a cock ring.

Could also have something to do that he slept with his ex the night before he slept with his new girl. I'm assuming he hadn't had sex for at least a few days prior to that.

[adrieann]

Originally Posted by Village Idiot

I skimmed through the post; the details didn't seem to be important to your condition.

-Are you wearing a condom? If so, take that shit off.
-Are you talking dirty? Is she acting like a dead fish? Talk dirty and tell her to stop being boring if so.
-Try changing your diet, add more protein and caffeine until you are so jittery that you have to fuck something.
-If girls simple do not turn you on anymore, find an alternative thing to fuck.

Is there a way I can convince her to not make me wear a condom? She's on the pill, but she wants me to wear one. I was thinking about it and I think that might be a pretty big factor.
She gets pretty in to it though, so it being boring isn't really the problem.

Originally Posted by BITCH TITZ

were you sober?

Yessir


I have given up porn too. It's a hindrance.

[JeffreyH]

Originally Posted by adrieann

Is there a way I can convince her to not make me wear a condom?

Which condoms were you using? Try these:

http://www.britishcondoms.co.uk/thin...n-condoms.html

or other extra-thin ones you can find.

[36fuckin5]

It's gonna keep happening until you don't feel guilty anymore.

Do it like a boss and fuck her anyway, tell her, get rid of her or keep having dick problems. These are your options.

[LilLita]

Originally Posted by JeffreyH

Could also have something to do that he slept with his ex the night before he slept with his new girl. I'm assuming he hadn't had sex for at least a few days prior to that.

Shouldn't matter. Most men can go several times a day.

[JeffreyH]

Originally Posted by LilLita

Shouldn't matter. Most men can go several times a day.

Yeah, but if that's a new girl and he was nervous/stressed/whatever, it would be much easier to get hard after a number of days than after blowing your load the night before.

[STD]

I've always found that getting really rough and dirty gets me hard when there's trouble. Like, violent rape sex, only consensual.

[poisongodmachine]

Swedish flower pollen: http://www.iherb.com/Source-Naturals...0-Tablets/1422

turns your cock into concrete

[BitterConflict]

Quit porn and jacking off for more than 5 months.

Jacking off frequently causes a person to have ED.

[DJ Meaty Cheeks]

Murder/suicide.

[BitterConflict]

Also you still might have feelings for your ex. It might be a subconscious thing.