Lost Sexual Attraction to BF

[girl980]

At first, the sex was great, and I accepted the fact that he was not circumcised. I was new to that, and it didn't bother me as much becasue he has a rocking body and he's cleanly. But then, sex became predictable and routine, and the first time I went down on a smelly penis, I was totally turned off. I looked up why it smells and found exactly what I hate about vaginas - self-cleansing. While this is a factor, a big chunk of the turn off is his lack of confidence. He constantly asks if he's big enough, if the sex was good enough, if I still love him, etc and has bought sex toys to make up for his "lack." It's just tiring having to answer the same questions every time after sex, and it has became so bad that I can't get turned on and have to lie. I've stopped having sex and told him I how I felt about his lack of confidence and it being a turn off, but he doesn't stop. It makes me not want to be around him because he brings it up every time and I'm tired of pretending. What should I do?

[J.P.W]

It's probably you.

[ILTST]

Sounds like it's time to break up, in case it isn't already obvious to you OP.

[virgil caine]

anal

[mr.blunt]

Dump his ass, that'll sort his self-confidence issues right out.

[Lucifereus]

tell him that hes absolutely fine and not to ask again. if he does then ask him why right then and see what his answer is. if he keeps doing it then dump him and fuck me

[InB4U]

Get someone else.

[Dandamano]

Fuck him in the ass with a dildo the same size as his dick and ask if it was big enough for him?

[PellucidMooseGrid]

cover his dick in vinegar, should mitigate the smell

[A$AP Weed Smoker]

Originally Posted by mr.blunt

Dump his ass, that'll sort his self-confidence issues right out.

ouch but this.

[ZeroMalarki]

Show him this thread.

[Nolte]

Show him the sex toys that you've acquired to replace him.

[VerbalGraffiti]

Sounds to me like you already know what you should do, you're just looking for us to validate it for you.

[Winston_Smith]

Originally Posted by girl980

At first, the sex was great, and I accepted the fact that he was not circumcised.

Wow, that was big of you. Did you notify the Nobel Commision?

Originally Posted by girl980

..But then, sex became predictable and routine,

You're doing it wrong.

Originally Posted by girl980

...and the first time I went down on a smelly penis, I was totally turned off.

He's doing it wrong.. NB - Fannies don't always smell like strawberries and rainbows by the way.

Originally Posted by girl980

It's just tiring having to answer the same questions every time after sex, and it has became so bad that I can't get turned on and have to lie.

Why lie? You're obviously intending to dump him like some nuclear waste, may as well get it over with.

Originally Posted by girl980

I've stopped having sex and told him I how I felt about his lack of confidence and it being a turn off, but he doesn't stop. It makes me not want to be around him because he brings it up every time and I'm tired of pretending. What should I do?

Become a lesbian.

[calatron]

Originally Posted by girl980

self-cleansing

I clean mine with soap and water every day in the shower.

[hooloovoo]

It's tough and it's unfair, but guys who are that openly unconfident sexually are basically digging their own graves as far as getting action is concerned.

The only way out is to fake a confident air until they become comfortable enough with the situation that the confidence becomes a reality.

He needs to understand that his insecurity is the problem here, not his manhood. Make this as clear to him as you can. After that point, the ball's kinda in his court. If he has some serious underlying issues maybe he needs to talk them through with someone other than yourself, since this line of conversation between the two of you is becoming such a downward spiral.

[Crumb Beggin Baghead]

No one is perfect, and human bodies smell sometimes. If the problems in your post are the only problems in the relationship, things aren't bad. If you can't work this out, you probably won't be able to work anything out with anyone else.

[crazzyass]

Tell him to wash his dick, and other than that he's perfectly fine. If he keeps bringing it up make it clear that it's driving you crazy and you're gonna break up if he doesn't stop.

[chuckNrambo]

Relationships suck.

Dump him, get yourself out there and whore it up.

have you ever considered the porn Industry?

[whitelightning]

Originally Posted by girl980

At first, the sex was great, and I accepted the fact that he was not circumcised. I was new to that, and it didn't bother me as much becasue he has a rocking body and he's cleanly. But then, sex became predictable and routine, and the first time I went down on a smelly penis, I was totally turned off. I looked up why it smells and found exactly what I hate about vaginas - self-cleansing. While this is a factor, a big chunk of the turn off is his lack of confidence. He constantly asks if he's big enough, if the sex was good enough, if I still love him, etc and has bought sex toys to make up for his "lack." It's just tiring having to answer the same questions every time after sex, and it has became so bad that I can't get turned on and have to lie. I've stopped having sex and told him I how I felt about his lack of confidence and it being a turn off, but he doesn't stop. It makes me not want to be around him because he brings it up every time and I'm tired of pretending. What should I do?

You sound like my ex girlfriend when she was describing her new boyfriend to me after I had just plowed her.

She hated weed THAT bad.

Oh well, I don't have this guys problems and all I want to do is apologize to this young lady on behalf of Men.

[Marijuanasaurus]

Ey yo man is a bitch

that is all

[Arcade]

if the sex is boring and routine, why don't you do something to change that? lazy uncreative fuckin bitches...and tell that sick fuck to clean his dick...and the confidence thing, thats something hes gonna have to figure out on his own.

[Dog]

Isn't it strange how when people tell stories, they are always blameless and the problems always originate in the other person?

I think it's possible that he asks for reassurances so often because you don't show enough affection, don't communicate, or don't seem happy. I'm not saying that's definitely the case, but I would suggest looking in the mirror at your own behavior a bit. Or try talking to him. Ask him why he's always asking those questions. Ask him if he thinks there's anything wrong with your behavior. Tell him to clean his dick. (There's not a single man on earth who would take offense to that, but I have to wonder why you are actually surprised that genitalia will start to stink after a day or so. Your pussy sweat sure as hell doesn't smell like roses.)

Virtually all of your problems could be dealt with if you acted like a mature adult and just had an open discussion.

[Zay]

The worst thing a man can possibly give a woman is not money or time, but control over his self-esteem. Confidence is to a man as ass/tits are to a woman: the criteria for establishing value. Sounds like your man made the grave mistake and nature is just playing out the way it was intended to. Do him a favor and dump him. You shouldn't feel bad or guilty about losing attraction to him. He acted confident to get you, now you know that he's not. The relationship was based on a fraud.

[Zay]

Originally Posted by PizzaNazi

Isn't it strange how when people tell stories, they are always blameless and the problems always originate in the other person?

I know that females bitch too much, but when you're a dude that blatantly says "look, my dick isn't enough for you so I'm buying all these toys and trying my hardest to please you so you don't dump my ass", you're just asking to get dumped. I translated it from Bitchanese here: He constantly asks if he's big enough, if the sex was good enough, if I still love him, etc and has bought sex toys to make up for his "lack."

That said, she's a total bitch for thinking there's anything wrong with being uncircumcised. That's not the real issue here.

[Dog]

Originally Posted by Zay

I know that females bitch too much, but when you're a dude that blatantly says "look, my dick isn't enough for you so I'm buying all these toys and trying my hardest to please you so you don't dump my ass", you're just asking to get dumped. I translated it from Bitchanese here: He constantly asks if he's big enough, if the sex was good enough, if I still love him, etc and has bought sex toys to make up for his "lack."

That said, she's a total bitch for thinking there's anything wrong with being uncircumcised. That's not the real issue here.

Although I believe he said those things, there's no context and there's no way of gauging whether her behavior warranted some of that stuff. For instance, if she's always distant, or never orgasms, or acts bored with sex all the time, then asking questions and buying toys might be a perfectly reasonable, thoughtful reply. Somehow I doubt he's the pathetic caricature that she's making him out to be.

[Marijuanasaurus]

Originally Posted by PizzaNazi

Although I believe he said those things, there's no context and there's no way of gauging whether her behavior warranted some of that stuff. For instance, if she's always distant, or never orgasms, or acts bored with sex all the time, then asking questions and buying toys might be a perfectly reasonable, thoughtful reply. Somehow I doubt he's the pathetic caricature that she's making him out to be.

Typical PizzaNazi. Always victimizing the women to compensate for your own shortcomings.

[Joe Camel]

Tell him to shut the fuck up.

[Vizier]

Bitch please, what's wrong with an uncut penis? You sound like a total tool; soap and water do the trick. Like PizzaNazi said, your coot probably doesn't smell like roses.

Also it's a matter of communication. Aside from the guy that needs to have more self confidence, I say a strained relationship where you have to lie all the time is pretty much futile.

[Dog]

Originally Posted by Marijuanasaurus

Typical PizzaNazi. Always victimizing the women to compensate for your own shortcomings.

I've given the same type of response to males who came here and gave one-sided stories. Remember the guy who got married and claimed that his girlfriend (another Zoklet user) was crazy?

I believe in equal opportunity when it comes to calling people on their bullshit, thank you very much.

[Marijuanasaurus]

Originally Posted by PizzaNazi

I've given the same type of response to males who came here and gave one-sided stories. Remember the guy who got married and claimed that his girlfriend (another Zoklet user) was crazy?

I believe in equal opportunity when it comes to calling people on their bullshit, thank you very much.

Ok cool.

The way I see it, theyre both in the wrong. The boyfriend for being an unconfident little bitch, and the OP for still giving him hope and not breaking up with him already,

[Death_Merchant]

I'd say it's all his fault. There is no excuse for his pathetic behavior. What's he going to do next, start cutting himself every time she doesn't lie and say his cock is enormous? It wouldn't matter what a women said to me. If I just fucked her and came, I've already won. Then I celebrate my victory with a nice little nap, and hope to wake up to some food .

OP, I know where you're coming from. It's not fun being with a needy person, and it's always a turnoff. Especially when they're constantly questioning whether you love them, or if you're going to stay with them. It also sounds like you're the type of woman that likes for the man to take charge and tell you what he wants, and what he's going to do to you. I've heard many women tell me that their biggest turnoff is a guy who asks them what they want or like during sex, instead of just going for it and sometimes pushing their limits.

I'm going to have to go with the lot here and say it's probably time to move on. If you've communicated the problem to him clearly and he's still pulling the same old shit, he's probably not going to change in the short-term. Often people that look for reassurance aren't on the path to solving their self-esteem issues. Now you're only left with the decision of whether you want to ride it out longer and hope it gets better; Or leave his ass now as to not waste anymore time.

I myself am in a similar situation with my GF. I'm hoping it gets better since we've been together for over a year and I don't want to end things; but I will if I must. It's a real downer when you're fully committed and they still ask for reassurance. Last winter I was fully committed to my GF, and was planning to save for an engagement ring for this coming fall. Then she started up with the insecurities, and constantly needing reassurance of everything. It feels like everything I do for her, caring about her, and treating her good, was really just meaningless to her. She could just sit back and reflect on how much time we've spent together, the good times we've had, the personal growth we've both had, and know how much I care. It's sad how people can become so focused on how they feel all the time, that they forget to focus on the things that would actually make them realize their insecurities are unfounded.

OP, you could apply the same thinking to your situation. He was so worried about you not being pleased, that his cock was to small, whether you loved him or not, etc... If he opened his eyes, he'd see that you really cared by actually seeing how you were interacting with him referenced to his insecurities. If his penis was to small, you still fucked him. If he sucked and didn't get you off, you were still fucking him. If he was truly bad in bed and his penis was to small, you kept fucking him cause you either liked it, or because you loved him enough to not make an issue of it. All of his insecurities could have been put to rest if he just opened his fucking eyes and realized that none of that shit mattered at all.

This is why I can't understand how someone can be insecure. Think you're ugly? Lots of ugly people around, which means ugly people are reproducing, hence ugly people can get laid. Need reassurance that your GF or BF loves you? Think about the time you've spent together, the things you've done, the experiences you've shared, and the fact they put up with you and your faults. You'll start to see they love you. Instead of letting your emotions dictate your actions, put some fucking thought into things and you'll be amazed when your insecurities disappear.

[Dog]

Why haven't my posts received more thanks?

[Winston_Smith]

Originally Posted by PizzaNazi

Why don't they bring back TAB clear?

Dunno mang..

[Death_Merchant]

Originally Posted by Cloudcat

1. Only Jews get circumcised.
2. Circumcised men are just as liable to have smelly dicks as uncircumcised men. It's a matter of hygiene.
3. He sounds like a fruit, dump him.

1. I'm not a Jew, and I'm circumcised.
2. My balls smell sweaty, but my penis would never have the smell she is referring to. There's nowhere for the bacteria to grow, so no smell.
3. I agree with #3

[Dog]

Originally Posted by Death_Merchant

There's nowhere for the bacteria to grow, so no smell.

So, you don't have a penis?

[Death_Merchant]

Originally Posted by PizzaNazi

So, you don't have a penis?

No foreskin. Without that skin fold, the area remains dry, so no bacteria grows.

[Dog]

Originally Posted by Death_Merchant

No foreskin. Without that skin fold, the area remains dry, so no bacteria grows.

There's plenty of bacteria down there, regardless of whether you have foreskin. The only difference is that smegma is produced by the foreskin, so we unmutilated men have to clean more often. Smegma also isn't the only major source of genital odors--pubic sweat (and sweat from any area that has thick hair, such as your armpits) is the main culprit.

[J.P.W]

Originally Posted by PizzaNazi

There's plenty of bacteria down there, regardless of whether you have foreskin. The only difference is that smegma is produced by the foreskin, so we unmutilated men have to clean more often. Smegma also isn't the only major source of genital odors--pubic sweat (and sweat from any area that has thick hair, such as your armpits) is the main culprit.

Do black people grow a frow from their armpits? I never saw a naked black guy.

[Cunto McFadyen]

Originally Posted by girl980

What should I do?

Get a sex change and circumcise your own cock you fucking bitch.