Protip #1

[Warped Mindless]

Hey all, Warped Mindless here. First let me say that Totse is not gone, its not shut down, its not dead. We, the members, ARE totse. We are here now and Totse lives on. I also want to extend a firm thanks to Zok.

Now on to the protip. I'm going to start posting a series of threads giving tips to be successful with women. What qualifies me to do this? Experience mostly. I'm constantly out approaching girls, everywhere from the street to night clubs. I've dated an/or slept with some of the hottest chicks I have ever run across. I've also had my fair share of failure...epic failure at points. Because of both my success and failure I know a lot of what works when interacting with women. I offer my advice for free because I enjoy doing so. If you don't like it, don't agree with it, and whatever else then simply ignore it. I do welcome friendly debate and all questions. On to the protip.

Protip #1

I often hear guys asking what to do and say when talking to a girl for the first time. They have a fear of freezing up or talking about the general boring shit that most guys talk to girls about. Here is what you should do.

Grab a pen and paper. I want you to think of your idea of a perfect girl. I bet you pictured her face, what her tits look like, a killer butt and so on. Good, don't write any of that down. Now, think of all the non-physical features of your perfect girl. What is it that you want in a girl other than look? For example, some of my list is:

-Funny
-Smart
-Outgoing
-Adventurous
-Not afraid to get messy
-Thrill seaker
- ect...

My list is actually quite long. Internalize this list. From there on every time you approach a girl you're goal is to find out if the girl meets all these standards of yours. Because of that, you will be talking to a girl with genuine interest and curiosity. That alone sets you apart from 90% of the other guys out there. Don't just go down the list and ask her "are you funny? "Are you smart?" instead, get her to open up. Ask open ended questions and open yourself up as well. Really try to connect and vibe.

Also, don't always "qualify" the girl. Most guys will be talking to a girl and they might ask "so, are you in college?" The girl will respond no and the guy will be like "cool" or something like that. Guys always seem to give approval to everything a woman says out of fear of rejection. He fears that if he says dropping out of college was a bad choice the girl will get mad or annoyed and tell him to piss off. This isn't the case. If you're talking to a girl you find she doesn't meet one of your standards such as being adventurous don't be afraid to disprove of it. Show it in your face and in the tone of your voice. "not adventurous...hmm, oh well." Don't be harsh but let her know you don't approve. Thats what I call "disqualifying" her. Doing that will actually make you more attractive to her. She knows you have standards an aren't just like evry other guy.

Thanks for reading guys,
Warped Mindless.

[StokedUp]

Some good tips there mate, thanks.
Could use more of this stuff around here.
Were you influenced by anything, like the PUA network etc. etc.?

[Warped Mindless]

Originally Posted by StokedUp

Some good tips there mate, thanks.
Could use more of this stuff around here.
Were you influenced by anything, like the PUA network etc. etc.?

Influenced by lots of experience.

[Warped Mindless]

I should mention, if everyone seems to enjoy my protips I'll try to post at least one a week.

[Osirius]

You ought to just post a new one here every week, or whatever time period seems good. If they turn out to be as good as this one, it might get stickied.

Just a thought, and good advice by the way. Just basically seeing if she measures up to YOU instead of you to her. I will have to try this, seeing as how college starts up tomorrow.

[Psychotic_Rave]

Nice advice man. I think a new Protip every week would be a great idea.

[StokedUp]

I'm all for it. Your advice will help everyone here

[Warped Mindless]

Thanks for the responses. I have lots of advice to offer so I'll probably post more than one a week.

[Obelisk]

Originally Posted by Warped Mindless

If you're talking to a girl you find she doesn't meet one of your standards such as being adventurous don't be afraid to disprove of it. Show it in your face and in the tone of your voice. "not adventurous...hmm, oh well." Don't be harsh but let her know you don't approve. Thats what I call "disqualifying" her. Doing that will actually make you more attractive to her.

And if she doesn't match a few things on your list you will notice instead of just letting that "one thing" slide. If too many things pile up getting out of the relationship earlier rather than later is always good.

[MartialShot]

You should see ripsticks advice collumn....

[Warped Mindless]

Originally Posted by Obelisk

And if she doesn't match a few things on your list you will notice instead of just letting that "one thing" slide. If too many things pile up getting out of the relationship earlier rather than later is always good.

Indeed.

When I wrote that I had one night stands more in mind but what you said also hold true.

[avalynne]

Very good advice. Very good indeed. I would deffinately have interest in a guy who wasn't trying to measure up to my standards, but look to see if I measure up to his instead. It is different, and a guy who does this will surely come across as confident which is a likable trait in a guy. However, be very careful with the disapproving of a woman's characteristics. If something doesn't measure up to you, like maybe she doesn't have a good enough sense of humor, then don't make it a point to show to much disdain. You're likely to insult her or hurt her feelings. Word spreads guys. If you're seen in a bar and you hurt a girls feelings, you're gonna be known for it. And it's likely everyone is going to have the wrong impression.

[Warped Mindless]

Originally Posted by avalynne

Very good advice. Very good indeed. I would deffinately have interest in a guy who wasn't trying to measure up to my standards, but look to see if I measure up to his instead. It is different, and a guy who does this will surely come across as confident which is a likable trait in a guy. However, be very careful with the disapproving of a woman's characteristics. If something doesn't measure up to you, like maybe she doesn't have a good enough sense of humor, then don't make it a point to show to much disdain. You're likely to insult her or hurt her feelings. Word spreads guys. If you're seen in a bar and you hurt a girls feelings, you're gonna be known for it. And it's likely everyone is going to have the wrong impression.

Thanks for the reply, avalynne. You bring up something else I want to share.

Word spreads guys. If you're seen in a bar and you hurt a girls feelings, you're gonna be known for it.

The opposite is also true. Be seen as social and be seen making girls laugh and having fun. This will sometimes get other girls to approach you. Also, if you're seen being very social with all the chicks in the place then when you finally approach the super hottie, she will open up to you and be much warmer.