why my girlfriend no touch my peni5??

[jayray93]

Heres the deal, so my girlfriend (shes 17)(and also she wants to wait before we go all the way) and i have been together about 7 months and on the 3rd month we were making out on her couch and i decided to finger her (it all went well). she said it was okay and she likes it. then we talked about it and she was all "i wanna stroke you '' or something like that. Since then ive been fingering her (i estimate it at about once a week) and she still hasnt touched me on my penis (shes rubbed me over the jeans but it does not count! its happened 3 times total for 5 minutes...) Everytime i try to get her to she tells me its either the wrong time or place even after i just fingered her its " im tired". i live in my own house alone and its "not right now" everytime i make an effort. her parents dont leave us alone when we're at her house so we have to wait till they sleep. WHY???? wtf? i mean im not desperate ( theres always internet, right?) its just frusterating i give and dont get ANYTHING... just why and how can i change this?

[pseudonym]

Get her drunk.

[ACE_187]

Originally Posted by jayray93

Heres the deal, so my girlfriend (shes 17)(and also she wants to wait before we go all the way) and i have been together about 7 months and on the 3rd month we were making out on her couch and i decided to finger her (it all went well). she said it was okay and she likes it. then we talked about it and she was all "i wanna stroke you '' or something like that. Since then ive been fingering her (i estimate it at about once a week) and she still hasnt touched me on my penis (shes rubbed me over the jeans but it does not count! its happened 3 times total for 5 minutes...) Everytime i try to get her to she tells me its either the wrong time or place even after i just fingered her its " im tired". i live in my own house alone and its "not right now" everytime i make an effort. her parents dont leave us alone when we're at her house so we have to wait till they sleep. WHY???? wtf? i mean im not desperate ( theres always internet, right?) its just frusterating i give and dont get ANYTHING... just why and how can i change this?

7 months??? I thought I was crazy for staying with a girl 1 without her fucking and she won't even touch your dick? Find a different gf

[Painzstake]

Originally Posted by pseudonym

Get her drunk.

Pretty much this

[jayray93]

im not dumping her for sex. shes pretty much my best friend and we never fight, not even once. She also doesnt drink...

[NamelessNom4d]

LMAO

[Painzstake]

However don't get her smashed, just enough so she thinks your the word of god. Then talk to her about why, Then try get a HJ or BJ. Also getting into a position where you're both naked IE shower/bathing together would be a good idea, just do exactly what you did before on the couch, see how that or should i say 'she' goes down All that aside you should just talk to her... Seriously 90% of people on LLR's problems can be solved by talking to the person(s) involved. Don't do it whilst or after your fingering her. But before and with no hint of sex.

[ACE_187]

Originally Posted by jayray93

im not dumping her for sex. shes pretty much my best friend and we never fight, not even once. She also doesnt drink...

So keep being her friend and find a girl who will fuck? It sounds like she's trying to play you

[adrieann]

What teh fuck?
That's nuts. You just need to lay the law down. 7 months without getting your penis touched is absurd. You're both adults just about, I mean it's not like it's weird or anything.

Maybe she's a lesbian, when you finger her she probably imagines it being your mother or something.

[Rizopas]

Ah, I miss being 17 too..

[DJ Meaty Cheeks]

Murder/suicide.

[jayray93]

Jesus Christ.... theres no way im dumping her or finding another girl. everything in our relationship is perfect. I know all her secrets and she knows mine, shes not lesbo.

[ZappaFan]

Originally Posted by jayray93

Heres the deal, so my girlfriend (shes 17)(and also she wants to wait before we go all the way) and i have been together about 7 months and on the 3rd month we were making out on her couch and i decided to finger her (it all went in well). she said it was okay and she likes it. then we talked about it and she was all "i wanna stroke you '' or something like that. Since then ive been fingering her (i estimate it at about once a week) and she still hasnt touched me on my penis (shes rubbed me over the jeans but it does not count! its happened 3 times total for 5 minutes...) Everytime i try to get her to she tells me its either the wrong time or place even after i just fingered her its " im tired". i live in my own house alone and its "not right now" everytime i make an effort. her parents dont leave us alone when we're at her house so we have to wait till they sleep. WHY???? wtf? i mean im not desperate ( theres always internet, right?) its just frusterating i give and dont get ANYTHING... just why and how can i change this?

Fixed ya up dawg.

[ACE_187]

Originally Posted by jayray93

Jesus Christ.... theres no way im dumping her or finding another girl. everything in our relationship is perfect. I know all her secrets and she knows mine, shes not lesbo.

If it's perfect why are you here?

You can start calling her Iron Panties and see if it bothers her enough to get her to fuck.

I hope you aren't spending money on her and not getting any though.

[Painzstake]

She doesn't drink? wow is there anything your GF actually does? By the sounds of it your GF is a goodie two shoes and doesn't want to be seen as loose or a drunk. Also by the sounds of it the reason you don't fight is because your probably to much of a Pansie and aren't trying too persuade her enough. Couples fight... it's normal in fact when it's not happening I'm usually more concerned.

Okay so extra potential ideas time
-As your fingering her whip our your junk and start beating off.
-Start to beat off when you know she's going to 'catch' you see what her reaction is.
-Get her into alcohol, buy schnapps peach or butterscotch. That shit is smooth a good starter drink for girls.

[adrieann]

Wait. Something is obviously amiss here.

You can't be in a relationship for 7 months and not fight, that's not a relationship.
And if it is actually true then it's not a healthy one. Fighting is a sign of passion, two individuals are comfortable enough with each other to disagree and argue about it. And it leads to a resolution, then fucking.

Get in a fight man. Just fucking do it.

[jayray93]

Originally Posted by ACE_187

If it's perfect why are you here?

You can start calling her Iron Panties and see if it bothers her enough to get her to fuck.

I hope you aren't spending money on her and not getting any though.

perfect except for the geing touched part. Yes, shes considered to be pretty behaved. We dont have anywhere to drink, she wont come over to my house, her parents are always home. Ive fingered her in the backseat of my car but its winter here, i could leave the engine running but the backseat hasnt presented itself for a while...

[jayray93]

Originally Posted by adrieann

Wait. Something is obviously amiss here.

You can't be in a relationship for 7 months and not fight, that's not a relationship.
And if it is actually true then it's not a healthy one. Fighting is a sign of passion, two individuals are comfortable enough with each other to disagree and argue about it. And it leads to a resolution, then fucking.

Get in a fight man. Just fucking do it.

We both see eye to eye, im pretty passive and when somthing bothers me i let it slide and it goes away, except for when it doesnt then i say something. Its %100 true we have never had an argument

[Orpheus]

Rohypnol is your best friend

[J.P.W]

Originally Posted by jayray93

im not dumping her for sex. shes pretty much my best friend and we never fight, not even once.

She sees you as a friend aswell, probably not when you first started to call eachother bf/gf lol, but I'm pretty sure she does now. She's a woman so she doesn't know how make this clear with words, so she does this with actions. (in your case a lack of action lolol)

[ACE_187]

Originally Posted by jayray93

perfect except for the geing touched part. Yes, shes considered to be pretty behaved. We dont have anywhere to drink, she wont come over to my house, her parents are always home. Ive fingered her in the backseat of my car but its winter here, i could leave the engine running but the backseat hasnt presented itself for a while...

Why won't she comes to your house

[adrieann]

Originally Posted by jayray93

We both see eye to eye, im pretty passive and when somthing bothers me i let it slide and it goes away, except for when it doesnt then i say something. Its %100 true we have never had an argument

So fucking have one.
Seriously.

It could end poorly or it could end up being the best decision you ever made.
Tension leads to resolution. If you never have any tension then there's nothing to resolve. Resolution is nice

[adrieann]

Originally Posted by J.P.W

She sees you as a friend aswell, probably not when you first started to call eachother bf/gf lol, but I'm pretty sure she does now. She's a woman so she doesn't know how make this clear with words, so she does this with actions. (in your case a lack of action lolol)

This.


I feel like he's spot on with this.

[J.P.W]

Originally Posted by ACE_187

Why won't she comes to your house

Isn't it obvious? It makes it easier for him to try and get some action and harder for her to make up excuses. She doesn't want to hurt him by letting him know she doesn't have any desire to have sex with someone she sees as just a friend.

If she wasn't a virgin and was in the same position as she is now, he might've gotten a pitty handjob, probably a pity fuck if she was a slut.

[jayray93]

she wont come to my house because shes paranoid her parents may drive by when were there.

shes a virgin, she told me.

yeah ive awlays wondered if there was something wrong because theres nothing between us to fight over idk

and also we're definetly not in the friend zone,we're together almost every day, we make out alot and she enjoys the fingering she just doesnt give back anything

[J.P.W]

Originally Posted by adrieann

So fucking have one.
Seriously.

It could end poorly or it could end up being the best decision you ever made.
Tension leads to resolution. If you never have any tension then there's nothing to resolve. Resolution is nice

Usually arguements wouldn't end up poorly (especially not first ones, when there's no friction yet) and if after 7 months you do have your first one and it ends up poor, I doubt it would result in a breakup.

Not if 2 human beings who are truly in love disagree with something worthy of an arguement.

If she breaks up though, it's because she finally found an opening to end this relationship and give her actual reasons to try and let him down easy and still feel justified.

[jayray93]

just forget the break up idea, from the first week i met her i knew she would be the one.

theres nothing between us worth arguing over. theres things i really dont like (her favorite music genre is pop and shes semi obsessed with Justin bieber. i mean really woomun youre 17 get over him) but thats it. i have no complaints except no sex...

[Myxomatosis]

Stop fingering her for a while and tease her.

Either that or dump her.

I'm pretty sure you would've dumped her already if you were straight forward about having sex. I'm pretty sure that there are guys out there who would've fucked her on the first night.

Look at you! LOL! 7 months and not even a handjob!

*W8s for insulting reply (reverse psychology)*

[Mirana]

Originally Posted by jayray93

she wont come to my house because shes paranoid her parents may drive by when were there.

shes a virgin, she told me.

yeah ive awlays wondered if there was something wrong because theres nothing between us to fight over idk

and also we're definetly not in the friend zone,we're together almost every day, we make out alot and she enjoys the fingering she just doesnt give back anything

Be more aggressive, put her hand on your crotch. Look her in the eyes..etc

the most common mistake is people get angry or upset to quickly, just be patient. She has to be comfortable with your penis, also show her your confident. Make stupid jokes like, "im gonna walk in here naked with whip cream all over my me" it works.

I was in the same situation as you with my girlfriend, but it's all just confidence and attitude. It really depends on the girl to, some just wont do it and usually it's because something she doesn't like about the guy. A woman giving herself sexually is a very big deal for them for who they do it with, ESPECIALLY first times (unless shes a slut)

good luck

[Mutant Funk Drink]

Have you just asked her why she won't stroke your cock?

Also, are you 15? No offense, but I'm just wondering. I get the feeling you're a young guy.

[J.P.W]

Originally Posted by jayray93

she wont come to my house because shes paranoid her parents may drive by when were there.

shes a virgin, she told me.

yeah ive awlays wondered if there was something wrong because theres nothing between us to fight over idk

and also we're definetly not in the friend zone,we're together almost every day, we make out alot and she enjoys the fingering she just doesnt give back anything

If you lacked estrogen and grew some balls, I'd try and give you advice on how to get in her pants before you make a thread on how you lost the ''love of your life''.

I know my advice would be ignored though so I won't go through the effort, faggot.

[J.P.W]

Originally Posted by Mutant Funk Drink

Have you just asked her why she won't stroke your cock?

Also, are you 15? No offense, but I'm just wondering. I get the feeling you're a young guy.

His username is jayray93, 1+1=2. He's probably 18, could be 19.

also, lol at

theres things i really dont like (her favorite music genre is pop and shes semi obsessed with Justin bieber. i mean really woomun youre 17 get over him) but thats it. i have no complaints except no sex...

''youre already 17'' lolol

Both of them are so naive. She found out she only sees him as a friend and he thinks that he found ''the one''.

[jayray93]

Originally Posted by Ask Me Anything

Stop fingering her for a while and tease her.

Either that or dump her.

I'm pretty sure you would've dumped her already if you were straight forward about having sex. I'm pretty sure that there are guys out there who would've fucked her on the first night.

Look at you! LOL! 7 months and not even a handjob!

*W8s for insulting reply (reverse psychology)*

Working relationships arent saturated with sex. there has to be a level of comitment and honesty involved also. theres no way im dumping her over the lack of a bj

but teasing her... thats an idea.

[L33tz]

I would have been pissed if it was 1 night. 7 months? lol

[Myxomatosis]

Originally Posted by jayray93

Working relationships arent saturated with sex. there has to be a level of comitment and honesty involved also. theres no way im dumping her over the lack of a bj

but teasing her... thats an idea.

Dude, women LOVE sex. There HAS to be sex in the relationship (but in your case, it seems you have to deflower her before she goes wild )

[jayray93]

im 18

ive neverreally talked to her about it... ill see about that

[Myxomatosis]

Originally Posted by jayray93

im 18

ive neverreally talked to her about it... ill see about that

Noo, trying to convince her is a bad idea

She'll just sit on her ass and think about it.

Just make sure to have a lot of foreplay, dude. Maybe manson knows about this. Just make out with her a lot and kiss around and stuff in the beginning but AVOID the sexual parts until you get her bra off

EDIT: Women need lots of foreplay because getting turned on is a slow process for them

[HampTheToker]

She's a virgin?

Well, there's your problem. You're basically going to have to talk them panties off of her. She's probably been taught to wait for marriage and that her first time is supposed to be special. Nothing wrong with that, honestly. If your relationship is as you describe, then you have to show her that you love her and present her with an opportunity that will be meaningful to her.

Above all, she doesn't want her parents to find out. She probably respects them and I'm sure they love her dearly. Don't fight that. You'll only turn her off. Get in good with her parents. Invite them all over to your place and cook them a nice meal. Talk to them alone about your noble intentions with their little princess. The goal is for them to endorse your relationship to their daughter. Ask her about her parents from time to time.

Patience is a virtue, brother. If she really means that much to you give it some time and work on getting that endorsement from her parents. She sounds like the kind of girl that wants her parents to be proud of her, even when it comes to her relationships.

[J.P.W]

Originally Posted by HampTheToker

She's a virgin?

Well, there's your problem. You're basically going to have to talk them panties off of her. She's probably been taught to wait for marriage and that her first time is supposed to be special. Nothing wrong with that, honestly. If your relationship is as you describe, then you have to show her that you love her and present her with an opportunity that will be meaningful to her.

Above all, she doesn't want her parents to find out. She probably respects them and I'm sure they love her dearly. Don't fight that. You'll only turn her off. Get in good with her parents. Invite them all over to your place and cook them a nice meal. Talk to them alone about your noble intentions with their little princess. The goal is for them to endorse your relationship to their daughter. Ask her about her parents from time to time.

Patience is a virtue, brother. If she really means that much to you give it some time and work on getting that endorsement from her parents. She sounds like the kind of girl that wants her parents to be proud of her, even when it comes to her relationships.

You make solid points but ignore the fact that she uses the ''afraid of being caught by parents'' excuse. he did actually touched her cunt.
If she really was that afraid of getting caught touching penis, why wasn't she afraid when his fingers touched her cunt? You think her parents would find it worse that their little princess touched a penis, than their little princess allowed this punk kid touching her cunt? I don't think what'd be worse for a parent to find out (or the girls ''paranoia'' for that) since I don't have children.

[jayray93]

[quote=HampTheToker;3264112]She's a virgin?

Well, there's your problem. You're basically going to have to talk them panties off of her. She's probably been taught to wait for marriage and that her first time is supposed to be special. Nothing wrong with that, honestly. If your relationship is as you describe, then you have to show her that you love her and present her with an opportunity that will be meaningful to her.

Above all, she doesn't want her parents to find out. She probably respects them and I'm sure they love her dearly. Don't fight that. You'll only turn her off. Get in good with her parents. Invite them all over to your place and cook them a nice meal. Talk to them alone about your noble intentions with their little princess. The goal is for them to endorse your relationship to their daughter. Ask her about her parents from time to time.

Patience is a virtue, brother. If she really means that much to you give it some time and work on getting that endorsement from her parents. She sounds like the kind of girl that wants her parents to be proud of her, even when it comes to her relationships.[/QUO

You got it excactly sir, im alredy pretty close to her family. her parents come over sometimes. im over there with them watching tv and chatting, just today i took her dad to the gym. im just gonna wait it out like i have been. like i said im not desperate but it just be nice to not be doing myself..