How to talk to people

[Joe Camel]

Help.

[Jo0]

Sound like you are the dominate one in the conversation,always even if you know you're not. Thats how you show confidence. I don't know thats how I talk to people.

[Anima Mundi]

Have some questions that start conversation. Talk about anything. Unless someone is completely shutting themselves out to your conversation, it's not hard to keep it going. If they say "nothing" to like anything you ask, then chances are they are a cunt and you shouldn't waste your time.

[HARDMAN]

Join the army. It's a very social lifestyle. They'll teach you to stop being so introverted.

[Horselover Fat]

I rather be an introvert than join the army...

[Joe Camel]

Originally Posted by Horselover Fat

I rather be an introvert than join the army...

This. But I'm not an introvert. The only things I can think about to talk about is video games or computers. Oh, and i stutter, but I don't really care.

[Agent 008]

1). Decide to yourself that you are going to be social. Picture in your head how you're going to act, and how extroverted you'll be.

If you can't even picture in your head, well, you're screwed. I view mental rehearsing as "installing the software", then, when you're actually out doing it in practice, it's somewhat easier.

2). Get yourself into a position where you can be social.

I find it a lot easier to change when I'm around "new" people, that don't know the "old" me. So get yourself out there, and "act" the role of the person you imagined in your mind beforehand. If you're having problems, literally act out that personality. Pretend you're not yourself anymore, but an actor playing a role.
Don't resort to drugs/chemicals to assist you. Your willpower is your best friend, you can do anything you set your mind to.

Hope that helps.

[Ratt]

- Know who you are, what your worth is, and what you believe. Don't compromise it.

- Don't squash others' thoughts/beliefs/lifestyles, either.

- Don't pretend that you know something when you really don't. People appreciate honesty.

- Smiles are contagious, so wear one as often as you can.

- Don't show off or act cocky, 'cause you may just fall flat on your face in the process.

- Confidence is easy to see. Most people will respect that, while others may lash out. Ignore it. Remember that it's their insecurities talking and that it doesn't reflect on you as a person. "Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission."

- Don't sweat the small things. Just trip over your own two feet as you were walking up to someone with the intention of asking them on a date? Laugh it off.

I hope at least one of those helped.

[EllisD]

If you need confidance
theres alot of hypnosis files for that, which have helped me greatly, I used to fear alot of shit, including minor things like bugs and insects (I know im a sissy boy) but now I hardly fear the thought of death and all those little things because my confidance has risen so high.
hypnosis is an accerlated learning process, where all the information goes into your subconcious mind and that is where all your passive thoughts come from and because of that you will make better/more confidance decisions with confidance.
hypnosis is obsolete with any behavioral modification.
I highly recommend it

[Agent 008]

Originally Posted by EllisD

If you need confidance
theres alot of hypnosis files for that, which have helped me greatly, I used to fear alot of shit, including minor things like bugs and insects (I know im a sissy boy) but now I hardly fear the thought of death and all those little things because my confidance has risen so high.
hypnosis is an accerlated learning process, where all the information goes into your subconcious mind and that is where all your passive thoughts come from and because of that you will make better/more confidance decisions with confidance.
hypnosis is obsolete with any behavioral modification.
I highly recommend it

The reason why I don't like hypnosis, is that you can never know for sure what kind of shit they implant into your subconsciousness.

I mean, one day you're a normal guy, minding your own business; then you listen to some hypnosis session that boosts your confidence, and before you know it, you're convinced that "confidance" is the correct spelling of the word.

That's some scary shit right there.

[EllisD]

LoL
Funny way to think about it, but yea thats true.
You gotta make sure the hypnotist your listening to is "certified hypnotsist/hypnotherapist" because im sure there are alot of phonys out there embedding some nasty "send me nude pictures!" type messages lol..
Its easy to also put yourself into trance with some relaxation and record some suggestions for yourself "I am becoming more confidant in social settings" type stuff and repeat them just to be on the safe side.

[Dionysus]

Talking to people is the easiest thing in the world. People like it when you ask them questions, especially women; it tends to reflect their own narcissism. Don't act like you are trying to impress them though; give the vibe you are asking questions for your own amusement, not because you’re actually interested in them. They tend to respond well to that, and you start on an equal footing as opposed to being someone who is just clinging on.

It's kind of hard to explain, because I have never had that problem, but if you are nervous then just ask basic questions and if you share any common interest at all you will eventually hit it off… or not. It depends on the person and how sociable you are.

[EllisD]

I talk to people but I always feel this weird vibe.
I feel like I intimidate people and they get nervous around me lol and that kinda makes me nervous I guess....
well I do have social anxiety so go figure....such a burden...jesus...

[Valkyr]

Find people with similar interest and it will make things sooo much easier. If you find peoole with similar personalities and thought processes socialising is easier.

[romulan]

Just be honest. Who gives a fuck what anyone thinks of you. You will eventually meet people that like you for you.

[EllisD]

not easy to do.
especially when theres the constant worry of evaluation and anxiety...makes all my conversations feel very awkward with people...

[i poop in your cereal]

Open your mouth. Exhale and move various muscles to produce sound.
Repeat.
????
PROFIT!!!

[EllisD]

wheres that topless picture? im still waiting

[i poop in your cereal]

Did you post on the actual totse?

[EllisD]

Nope I never did.
I couldnt register, that shit was always down.
but I was on there like every day for the past couple of years just reading forums though

[i poop in your cereal]

I take it you didn't read SG or HB.

[EllisD]

Yea I was more into "I found it on the web" "BLTC" "reinvent yourself"
a lil bit SG
Why do you ask?
from the looks of it, you just like young women

[i poop in your cereal]

Originally Posted by EllisD

Why do you ask?

Because if you had, it would've been practically impossible for you to not find out that I was a male.

[EllisD]

lol well I knew you were a male, quite obvious.
I just wanted to see a topless pic of that girl, figured you had every other pic of her, u would have some nudes somewhere.

[electric wizard]

Originally Posted by Agent 008

The reason why I don't like hypnosis, is that you can never know for sure what kind of shit they implant into your subconsciousness.

I mean, one day you're a normal guy, minding your own business; then you listen to some hypnosis session that boosts your confidence, and before you know it, you're convinced that "confidance" is the correct spelling of the word.

That's some scary shit right there.

Lol@this post.

I'd like the name of some of these files though, or a direct link to torrents if possible. Its worth a shot. I have confidence issues myself, from time to time...Who doesn't?

[EllisD]

Originally Posted by electric_wizard

Lol@this post.

I'd like the name of some of these files though, or a direct link to torrents if possible. Its worth a shot. I have confidence issues myself, from time to time...Who doesn't?

hey, yea hypnosis has helped my confidance alot...
if you have a aim or yahoo lemme know what it is, i can send you files over that

[P_R_Deltoid]

While completely ignoring everything everyone else has posted...

Ask questions. People love to talk about themselves. If you don't have anything in common, don't expect to become really good friends with someone.

Originally Posted by EllisD

hey, yea hypnosis has helped my confidance alot...
if you have a aim or yahoo lemme know what it is, i can send you files over that

Hey man, you should just zshare them an post the link.

[Jai614]

you wip it out

[negz]

In Russia, people talk to YOU!

[Merko]

Originally Posted by negz

In Russia, people talk to YOU!

Fail.

[negz]

I laffed. In fact, I'll give myself a cookie or two for that.

[zooting22]

In Soviet Russia cookies eat you.
Learn to meme/gtfo

[Tokerface]

Just try your hardest to keep conversation going. I dont mean babble about random crap, just do your best to keep talking.

[Dionysus]

^ And if they don't feel like chatting, then follow them around all day untill they decide you are interesting enough to talk to. If you have too, stand outside their window with a megaphone and talk about the weather. I guarentee you will get a conversation by the end of the week.

[The Jitterskull]

Originally Posted by EllisD

not easy to do.
especially when theres the constant worry of evaluation and anxiety...makes all my conversations feel very awkward with people...

Why are you worried about evaluation?
Thats your ego wanting to be the best it can. Let go of it and the rest is easy.