Girls are dicks?

[Sybil]

I mean, do girls really think guys don't have feelings?

I mean, there's this girl, and we hung out alot and then, on a certain night, I get these messages from her, "I miss you, I want you come sleep over here cause I don't wanna sleep alone" Sadly it was too late that night and I had to work the other day. So I said I couldn't.
Then she said that I could only sleep over that night, cause normally she has a roomy who sleeps there. After about 10 she says I can stay to sleep tomorrow cause her roomy found another place to sleep. So she actually went tru the trouble of making her roomy find another place to sleep.

So the next day I go over there to sleep. Nothing really happend, we just laid in bed, spooning. and me rubbing and feeling practically all over her body and she with me, but nothing happened. We didn't even kiss.

Anyway, a couple days later, very coincidentally I was around her neighboorhood at night and she asks me if I want to come over. So I come over again, and we sleep together again, This time, it goes a bit further and we feel a bit more, in other words, oral, but still no sex.

Anyway, the next day I ask her what the deal is? And well, you should know she just came out of a 3 year relationship a month ago. So she goes and tells me that it's too soon and doesn't want to get pinned down again yet and have fun and such. And I've also heard that she's slept with a couple of other guys...

I mean, I don't actually mind that, but would she also tell them that she misses them and likes them very much? Or would it be different? Should I confront her about it? Ask her if It's just me she likes or that she just told me?

[Syphilis]

Stop blaming the women. It's your fault you aren't man enough to make a move.

So the next day I go over there to sleep. Nothing really happend, we just laid in bed, spooning. and me rubbing and feeling practically all over her body and she with me, but nothing happened. We didn't even kiss.

Excuse me while I get my pussy-whip.

[Sybil]

Ooh right, trolls will not be dignified with a response

[Euda]

If she's just looking to have fun, then you're no different than any other guy she's with. There's no use getting the idea in your head that you're special to her beyond any other man.

If you're not having fun, then stay away from the girl. If you can't both have fun, then this sort of thing probably isn't for you.

[Centipede2]

The girls on LLR need to get a bit less attention so they feel slightly less like supermodels. Other than that noooooo.

In your situation, meh. How into you do you think she is?

[Sybil]

I'm sorry, but when somebody tells me that she misses me and is really into me...that's saying something.

[Euda]

Originally Posted by Sybil

I'm sorry, but when somebody tells me that she misses me and is really into me...that's saying something.

Unless she misses 10 other guys, a dog, and this stew that her Grandma used to make. Then you're just more of the same.

You can talk to her about it, but it sounds like you already have.

[Centipede2]

Originally Posted by Sybil

I'm sorry, but when somebody tells me that she misses me and is really into me...that's saying something.

Didn't mean to offend. When I hear "we hung out a lot" followed by the spooning with no sex, then I think that she's emotionally into you and not physically.

Either that or she's on a really long period, lonely and wants a cuddle buddy, or is into you a lot but in a nonsexual manner.

Sort of need more info. I agree with Euda talk more if she dosesn't talk then she's neurotic, dump *thumbsup*.

[Sybil]

I have, but not about how it really is. If she really does feel anything for me, but I don't know if I should, maybe I should just let her be for a while...let her figure her shit out. Get her head straight, Then I either have a chance of some guy getting with her before she gets her head straight, or maybe she'll appreciate that I wasn't too pushy?

[Young Meth]

Originally Posted by Sybil

I'm sorry, but when somebody tells me that she misses me and is really into me...that's saying something.

Man girls can and will say this to alot of guys.. and vice versa

Learn from lifes lessons! Don't take any one thing too seriously. When actions and words and perceptions all match up, then you know it is one way or another. Peace brotha!

Don't be attached, go for your fun. Go until she actually burns you or w/e.

[Euda]

There's nothing to push at this point. She says that she misses you and wants to spend more time with you; how she means it doesn't much matter, when you stop to think about it. Keep things casual for now, but let her know that you're open to more.

She's interested in you and things are positive.

[johnplywd]

pussy

[Sybil]

Originally Posted by Young Meth

Don't be attached, go for your fun. Go until she actually burns you or w/e.

Nah...I ain't like that. I'm already getting attached to her, and I know if I carry on I'll just get into her more and when she then decides that she doesn't want a real relationship, it'll just hurt even more.

Better cut the pain short . So...I guess I'll just ask her next time what the deal really is. I should ask her in real life, but to be honest, I'm leaning towards sending a mail, just cause I don't wanna do that shit in real life...

[Euda]

The best reason to keep things casual is that she isn't looking for anything but some fun, from what you've said.

[Sybil]

Originally Posted by Euda

There's nothing to push at this point. She says that she misses you and wants to spend more time with you; how she means it doesn't much matter, when you stop to think about it. Keep things casual for now, but let her know that you're open to more.

She's interested in you and things are positive.

No point in pushing, but I just have a hard time knowing that she's also seeing other guys! Wouldn't everybody? I mean, that just ain't normal to me.

[driveby]

If girls are dicks, there's really no way around being extreemely gay, is there? I mean kissing, and licking a dicks head.

[SLIM]

Girls are like a dick without wings.

[Syphilis]

Originally Posted by Sybil

Ooh right, trolls will not be dignified with a response

Not liking the truth doesn't make it untrue.

[Syphilis]

Really, though, you're letting yourself get walked all over and get strung along. Not good.

[Sybil]

Originally Posted by Syphilis

Really, though, you're letting yourself get walked all over and get strung along. Not good.

That's what I'm thinking...

[Euda]

Originally Posted by Sybil

No point in pushing, but I just have a hard time knowing that she's also seeing other guys! Wouldn't everybody? I mean, that just ain't normal to me.

You don't have any responsibility that goes beyond common courtesy and mutual enjoyment. It's a pretty simple relationship, but that might be my party background speaking. It takes everybody a bit of time to leave a relationship behind, so give her that time to unwind.

You can ask her about birth control and what steps she's taking to keep you and her safe, then broaden the conversation from there to talk about moving towards an exclusive relationship.

If you're enjoying yourself, aware of the other guys, and not going out of your way for the girl, then you're surely not getting walked on. Just recognize it for what it is and don't let your emotions get tangled up in things, unless she's willing to let her emotions come out and play too.

[Syphilis]

Next time, you make a move on her.

If she likes you, she'll go for it, and you'll both be happy. If isn't attracted to you, you'll get rejected and you'll get to move on and stop wasting your time with her.

That's all you have to do. You can have sex with out getting pinned down in a relationship. Don't confront her about it, she said she just wants to have some fun flings, serious talks about relationships are exactly what she doesn't want right now.

[happy_one_hit]

Originally Posted by Sybil

That's what I'm thinking...

You were right, then.

Find someone better. Was that the girl you made the poll about fucking?

[Rocko]

You obviously don't get it. Every woman runs her life around the deep-rooted, unshakable belief that she's the only one on the planet with actual emotions.

[slm33d]

Originally Posted by Sybil

Ooh right, trolls will not be dignified with a response

He's right. You're whipped , she has you exactly where she wants you. She wants someone to have a connection other then sex , so hence why your not getting any.

She will have sex with others and use you for shit a bf would normally do ie watch videos , snuggling & hanging out..

Hope that's helped but you need to make a move cause she won't. Was this the one you posted that pic of?.

[Sybil]

Originally Posted by slm33d

He's right. You're whipped , she has you exactly where she wants you. She wants someone to have a connection other then sex , so hence why your not getting any.

She will have sex with others and use you for shit a bf would normally do ie watch videos , snuggling & hanging out..

Hope that's helped but you need to make a move cause she won't. Was this the one you posted that pic of?.

I have made a move, that's when she said she didn't know and didn't want to tie down... and yes, it's that girl

[HTS]

Originally Posted by Sybil

I have made a move, that's when she said she didn't know and didn't want to tie down... and yes, it's that girl

I thought you said you fucked her..?

So wait, you have this entirely average looking girl whose face makes her look like she belongs to a race of birdpeople, shes using you as some sort of emotional tampon/cuddling machine, she isn't fucking you, and you're still interested in her?

Why bother, she's not worth the hassle...

Sorry man, but it seems like you're taking her/your relationship with her a bit too seriously.

Although I'll be the first to admit I know nothing, so feel free to ignore me.

[Euda]

Let it grow on its own. She gave you her answer for now, so it's time to see where that takes you. If you aren't content with it, then let her know.

[Sybil]

Originally Posted by HTS

I thought you said you fucked her..?

So wait, you have this entirely average looking girl whose face makes her look like she belongs to a race of birdpeople, shes using you as some sort of emotional tampon/cuddling machine, she isn't fucking you, and you're still interested in her?

Why bother, she's not worth the hassle...

Sorry man, but it seems like you're taking her/your relationship with her a bit too seriously.

Although I'll be the first to admit I know nothing, so feel free to ignore me.

Please don't be mouthing off, you should be lucky just to get a tampon. Ooh wait you have.

http://encyclopediadramatica.com/HTS-Noob

Originally Posted by Euda

Let it grow on its own. She gave you her answer for now, so it's time to see where that takes you. If you aren't content with it, then let her know.

Yeah, I think I'll just let her know and then we'll just see what happens.

[Agent 008]

I thought you were older than me?

Don't you know the whole "No... no.. no... nooo... noooo... yes!!!" thing?

Unless she says "STOP" or "NO" when you know she is 100% serious about it, she is not denying you, she is resisting you.

In that case, what you should do, as a man, is persevere.

Girls are deathly afraid of coming off as "sluts". The excuses she was giving you? That was clearly for that precise reason.
Think about it. WHY did she invite you into bed with her? She wanted sex! But you completely pussied out there.

Girls don't like to take responsibility for sex. They prefer to be "swept away by the moment" - it's obviously just a mind game of theirs, since ultimately, nothing can happen without their permission and consent. But that's how things are.

So next time, do the girl a favour, and use your balls.

[HTS]

Originally Posted by Sybil

Please don't be mouthing off, you should be lucky just to get a tampon. Ooh wait you have.

http://encyclopediadramatica.com/HTS-Noob

That had to be the lamest insult I've ever heard. On the internet or otherwise.

On another note, I wasn't trying to mouth off man. I was just saying... she's not all that attractive (average), she's fucking other guys while using you for cuddles and a shoulder to cry on, and she's pretty much stated you won't be getting any.

I just don't see the benefit in sticking with her. You're an attractive man, Mr. Freeman. There's no reason to get hung up on this one girl, especially when you could probably do better.

[Uriah Heep]

Originally Posted by Euda

If she's just looking to have fun, then you're no different than any other guy she's with. There's no use getting the idea in your head that you're special to her beyond any other man.

This is nothing but grade A truth, but it doesnt apply to me, I always make it to the top, and make sure no one messes with my,then, woman.

OP, Maybe if you can, you can sway her to you, its just not going to be easy, you have to make her want you, and before you even THINK about it, ask yourself..."Is she worth it"

If yes: Ask yourself "why would she want me?" then try to find all of your good traits and expose them all to her, give it your best shot, and deep conversation will help, (if you're serious about it)

If no: Disconnect from her, you gotta just stop talkin' to her...even though this may make her want to talk to you.

Good luck.

[nutsack]

Originally Posted by Sybil

I mean, do girls really think guys don't have feelings?

I mean, there's this girl, and we hung out alot and then, on a certain night, I get these messages from her, "I miss you, I want you come sleep over here cause I don't wanna sleep alone" Sadly it was too late that night and I had to work the other day. So I said I couldn't.
Then she said that I could only sleep over that night, cause normally she has a roomy who sleeps there. After about 10 she says I can stay to sleep tomorrow cause her roomy found another place to sleep. So she actually went tru the trouble of making her roomy find another place to sleep.

Obviously wants you to sleep with her

So the next day I go over there to sleep. Nothing really happend, we just laid in bed, spooning. and me rubbing and feeling practically all over her body and she with me, but nothing happened. We didn't even kiss.

Why the fuck didn't you kiss her then or do something? Some girls won't start it.

Anyway, a couple days later, very coincidentally I was around her neighboorhood at night and she asks me if I want to come over. So I come over again, and we sleep together again, This time, it goes a bit further and we feel a bit more, in other words, oral, but still no sex.

So she must like you. She gives you another chance or realizes you like to take it slow. Could have fucked her without a doubt this time unless it was pre agreed that you would only do oral.

Anyway, the next day I ask her what the deal is? And well, you should know she just came out of a 3 year relationship a month ago. So she goes and tells me that it's too soon and doesn't want to get pinned down again yet and have fun and such. And I've also heard that she's slept with a couple of other guys...

What do you mean you asked her what the deal is? She tells you she doesn't want a commitment aka she either just wants to fuck you or wants to fuck you first before making one.

I mean, I don't actually mind that, but would she also tell them that she misses them and likes them very much? Or would it be different? Should I confront her about it? Ask her if It's just me she likes or that she just told me?

Next time make a move. If she is just pussywhipping you then completely forget about her and it will make you feel much better.

[whimsi]

If you're getting emotionally involved with her and she isn;t with you, you need to hold off, and back up.

I suggest talking to her about it, confirming whether she just wants to have you for casual sex, or whether she is looking for a relationship with commitment.

If she wants to be casual, ditch out. You don't.

If she wants a relationship, hold her to it and if she doesn't follow through, ditch out.

You don't need a girl around who just says cheesy lovey dovey shit because she's lonely. You need a girl who says cheesy lovey dovey shit and means it from the bottom of her heart and means it about YOU specifically.

[Silverfuck]

I can't believe that a girl purposely went out of her way for you to come over and 'sleep with her' and you didn't do anything about it. Girls don't just want some company in their bed; that is an utter fallacy. She wanted your dick, man.

If she's acting like a dick now it's likely because she pretty much offered herself up on a platter and you didn't reach out and take her. She probably feels rejected that she could basically say "I want to you to fuck me" and have you not do anything about it. Her self-esteem is probably all shattered because she's wondering why you didn't try to do anything with her right away. I'm not trying to like...be all blamey or something, but that's what it sounds like, man.

+1 Nukem, btw.

[Sybil]

Christ, excuse me for being a gentleman.

And did you read the entire thing? The next time I slept over, we did have...some intercourse...

[Silverfuck]

Don't get all butthurt, I'm just trying to help .

[thendoftheline]

Protip: Do what you want and feel.. forget about how you think she does.. and if it rolls it rolls. When you actually get to know her a little then you'll know how she is and wont have to guess.

[Euda]

Originally Posted by Silverfuck

I can't believe that a girl purposely went out of her way for you to come over and 'sleep with her' and you didn't do anything about it. Girls don't just want some company in their bed; that is an utter fallacy. She wanted your dick, man.

If she's acting like a dick now it's likely because she pretty much offered herself up on a platter and you didn't reach out and take her. She probably feels rejected that she could basically say "I want to you to fuck me" and have you not do anything about it. Her self-esteem is probably all shattered because she's wondering why you didn't try to do anything with her right away. I'm not trying to like...be all blamey or something, but that's what it sounds like, man.

I'm going to go ahead and say you're wrong on that one. I know quite a few girls that like company in bed. Hell, I like company in bed. It takes some time to get used to sleeping alone when you get used to sleeping beside someone.

If this girl is coming out of a long relationship, there's a really good chance that she's used to the companionship in bed. Yeah, she might want to have sex sometime soon or be thinking about having sex while you're close, but there's nothing wrong with letting her exert herself a little.

[Sybil]

Originally Posted by Silverfuck

Don't get all butthurt, I'm just trying to help .

I know, and I'm not butthurt . But I'm just saying, something did happen the next time. And as Euda said, some girls actually do just like company in bed, as do I. I can just have a girl lying in my arms and just enjoy the feeling of her skin against mine, the feeling of being together.

I guess that feeling is lost on...SOME people...