Soooo... I can't cum..

[SizableSac]

Ughhh. Okay so ive been having sex for about 3 months now, I lost my virginity to this girl, and every time weve had sex after the third or fourth time (in total not one session ) i cannot cum. Ive only been fucking her with a condom and am not willing to try anything without one until i have a really low chance of impregnating her, shes getting on the pill soon. Really i think it was just the whole "having sex" scene that made me cum before, im sure its the condom, cause when i get head from her it feels so much better.. and i need lots of head stimulation. Or could it be some psychological problem?

[Ivy Mike]

Originally Posted by SizableSac

Ughhh. Okay so ive been having sex for about 3 months now, I lost my virginity to this girl, and every time weve had sex after the third or fourth time (in total not one session ) i cannot cum. Ive only been fucking her with a condom and am not willing to try anything without one until i have a really low chance of impregnating her, shes getting on the pill soon. Really i think it was just the whole "having sex" scene that made me cum before, im sure its the condom, cause when i get head from her it feels so much better.. and i need lots of head stimulation. Or could it be some psychological problem?

I had the same problem and all I can say is don't fap for 3-4 days before fucking her. That can solve possible psychological and sensitivity issues since you'll be horny enough to freaking destroy her regardless of any anxiety.

[M. Samuel Chevalier]

you're gay

[AngryOnion]

Do you take any antidepressants?
If so that may be your problem.

[The Jitterskull]

Originally Posted by SizableSac

Ughhh. Okay so ive been having sex for about 3 months now, I lost my virginity to this girl, and every time weve had sex after the third or fourth time (in total not one session ) i cannot cum. Ive only been fucking her with a condom and am not willing to try anything without one until i have a really low chance of impregnating her, shes getting on the pill soon. Really i think it was just the whole "having sex" scene that made me cum before, im sure its the condom, cause when i get head from her it feels so much better.. and i need lots of head stimulation. Or could it be some psychological problem?

Can you do so from jacking off?
If not your sperm isn't being created I'd think, or not coming out.

[Joe Camel]

Take off the condom dude. So much better.

[Dmitri]

Originally Posted by Nightside Eclipse

If not your sperm isn't...coming out.

Hot damn, you're a genius!

[optl]

This happened to me. I couldn't cum like the first 10 times I had sex; I was freaking the fuck out. But being sober during sex and not fapping for awhile eventually fixed it. Now I wish I could go back to the way it was where I could have sex forever. Try fucking doggy style. I think the reason this happens to guys is because the way they used their hand for so long is completely different from a pussy. Once your dick gets used to the pussy, you will cum.

[SizableSac]

Originally Posted by adenosine triphosphate

I had the same problem and all I can say is don't fap for 3-4 days before fucking her. That can solve possible psychological and sensitivity issues since you'll be horny enough to freaking destroy her regardless of any anxiety.

Lmao! I've tried that haha. I havent for a week..

Originally Posted by Samsonite!

you're gay

Gee Thanks.

Originally Posted by angryonion

Do you take any antidepressants?
If so that may be your problem.

Nope im not taking any pills and i dont drink or do any type of drug.

Originally Posted by Nightside Eclipse

Can you do so from jacking off?
If not your sperm isn't being created I'd think, or not coming out.

Yup haha! My hand works fine!

Originally Posted by iNirvana

Take off the condom dude. So much better.

Working on it.. Like i said in my OP..

Originally Posted by optl

This happened to me. I couldn't cum like the first 10 times I had sex; I was freaking the fuck out. But being sober during sex and not fapping for awhile eventually fixed it. Now I wish I could go back to the way it was where I could have sex forever. Try fucking doggy style. I think the reason this happens to guys is because the way they used their hand for so long is completely different from a pussy. Once your dick gets used to the pussy, you will cum.

Haha well its the opposite for me! i could cum at the beginning, and now i can't.... Well anyway i think it might be performers anxiety, cause im always thinking about my girl and if shes enjoying it.. im gonna try focusing on my dick next time !

[Nero]

Stop using a condom and just pull out you pussy. You know when you're going to come like twenty seconds beforehand, and the pre-ejaculatory fluid contains no sperm.

Fuck you make me wanna kill you.

[Paragon]

When she's had her fun, take your dick out and jack off (preferably on her face). If that doesn't work, go see a doctor.

[Silverfuck]

Eh, condoms kind of suck. They really do numb the sensation, and I'm sure it's way more noticeable for guys.

Maybe it was just the novelty of the situation that was getting you off before. It sounds like you need to talk to your girl about other methods of birth control (the pill, the patch, the shot, Nuvaring, IUD, etc.). In the meantime, you should spend more time on foreplay, and really focus on all of the awesome sensations of sex. It's easy to get caught up in the whole penis-in-vagina thing, but there are so many awesome, arousing things about sex: the feeling of their skin on yours, fingernails digging into your back, the rhythm, the heat and electricity generated between the two of you, the feel of your partner's lips and breath on your sensitive skin. Try focusing on all of the other sexy things that make sex awesome, really fixate on the things about your partner that get you going. Don't judge have sex, have awesome sex: spend a lot of time teasing and fooling around to get really amped up for the main even.

Also, enough cannot be said about communication. Talk to her, and let her know what she can do to make it awesome for you too .

[plehem12]

isnt one of the things this forum is supposed to be about is harm reduction? for shame on all of you for encouraging this young man to not use a condom when hes been responsible enough to use one! for shame!

[Silverfuck]

Originally Posted by plehem12

isnt one of the things this forum is supposed to be about is harm reduction? for shame on all of you for encouraging this young man to not use a condom when hes been responsible enough to use one! for shame!

lol.

Good job, OP, you had enough common sense to use a prophylactic.

You deserve a pat on the back.

[plehem12]

Originally Posted by Silverfuck

lol.

Good job, OP, you had enough common sense to use a prophylactic.

You deserve a pat on the back.

the last couple times youve replied to me, youve used big words. and since i dont know what they mean, im gonna take them as disrespect. watch your mouth, and help me with this sale.

[Mor3BL7]

OP Is Just Whoring Attention.
He's not having sex whatsoever.

[Silverfuck]

Originally Posted by plehem12

the last couple times youve replied to me, youve used big words. and since i dont know what they mean, im gonna take them as disrespect. watch your mouth, and help me with this sale.

40 year old virgin quote! Noice!

*highfives*

[Agent 008]

OP, first of all, stop worrying. Make sex about the journey, not the destination. You do find sex enjoyable, right? If not, you are doing something seriously wrong.

Secondly, try to stop masturbating and stop watching porn for a couple of weeks. You may have set up a pathway in your brain that links porn and masturbation with the reward of orgasm - so abstain for 2 weeks to set your gearbox back into neutral, and then reinforce the new pathways with some hot kinky sex.

Also, focus on trying *not* to orgasm for a change. Our brains work in strange ways, and that may actually end up helping you come.

And finally... It may sound obvious, but you actually find her attractive, right? Has your attraction by any chance weakened after around the fourth time you had sex? Who knows, maybe you just lost the "chemistry" between you two.

[calatron]

Sue your doctor for cutting off your foreskin.

Seriously though, try different condoms. Try thin ones, try condoms that are bigger if you have more than say, 6.5 inches of pen0r.

One thing that gets me off faster is pulling all the way out and going all the way in. Firstly it drives girls nuts and secondly it stimulates the glans more. Try it and get a good rhythm, it feels very good.

[Agent 008]

Originally Posted by calatron

try condoms that are bigger if you have more than say, 6.5 inches of pen0r.

It's more about the width, than the length though.

[Satyr]

Yeah, I had this too. But honestly, I was (am... ) quite a wanker (2-3 times a day). Usually, 3-4 days before I see my girlfriend I refrain from any wacking at all. Right now, I'm on a non-fapathon though, already going for about a week. The good thing when you wank a lot is that you can last really long during sex. And I still can.

So, when I'm watching porn and jacking off, I'm actually doing it for her so I can last longer.

[NewTroll]

LMFAO