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How can i make it painless for her.
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Old 04-02-2009, 01:41 PM
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ANaL?
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Old 04-02-2009, 01:43 PM
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Serious answer, try after she has masturbated to orgasm.
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ANaL?
Serious answers please.
I've suggested it, but she won't go for it.
Plus she wants to start trying for a baby, but the sex puts her off because it hurts so bad.
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Old 04-02-2009, 01:48 PM
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Dump her tell her to date asian men or dwarves if your white cock is too much for her
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Old 04-02-2009, 01:51 PM
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Serious answer, try after she has masturbated to orgasm.
Thanks, tried that before.

The least pain she has had is when i have put a finger in there and just tried stretching her for a couple of minutes before. But other than that shes in agony.
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Old 04-02-2009, 01:53 PM
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LOL i certainly hope shes good at sucking dick.
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Old 04-02-2009, 01:56 PM
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http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-treatment

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Plus she wants to start trying for a baby, but the sex puts her off because it hurts so bad.
She wants to pass a baby, but can't even handle the cock insertion?

Holy shit.
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Default Re: My girlfriend has vaginismus :(

We are supposed to be going to psycosexual therepy. But the waiting list for it is 8 months.
We applied in november. But we haven't heard anything back from them yet.
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Old 04-02-2009, 02:31 PM
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The only solution that comes to mind is daily fingering to gradually loosen things up and possibly slightly desensitize the area. I'm basing this on my experience with overcoming a foreskin i couldn't pull back because it was so tight. I know these two situations are like comparing apples to oranges but you get the idea. BTW my foreskin is great now!
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The only solution that comes to mind is daily fingering to gradually loosen things up and possibly slightly desensitize the area. I'm basing this on my experience with overcoming a foreskin i couldn't pull back because it was so tight. I know these two situations are like comparing apples to oranges but you get the idea. BTW my foreskin is great now!
Agree !
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The only solution that comes to mind is daily fingering to gradually loosen things up and possibly slightly desensitize the area. I'm basing this on my experience with overcoming a foreskin i couldn't pull back because it was so tight. I know these two situations are like comparing apples to oranges but you get the idea. BTW my foreskin is great now!
My foreskin wouldn't come back. I got cut.

Things aren't looking up for me
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Old 04-02-2009, 02:39 PM
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Do drugs/alcohol help ? That's a question not a suggestion btw.
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Old 04-02-2009, 02:41 PM
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Default Re: My girlfriend has vaginismus :(

Having a baby + drugs + alcohol = no good
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Do drugs/alcohol help ? That's a question not a suggestion btw.
I don't do drugs anymore, and she has never done them.

And we don't drink.
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Old 04-02-2009, 02:47 PM
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I don't do drugs anymore, and she has never done them.

And we don't drink.
You don't drink, do drugs and you can't even fuck?


Fuck that sucks.
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cock insertion
*chuckles*

You said insertion!

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I don't do drugs anymore, and she has never done them.

And we don't drink.
Whadda fuck are yous? Mormons??!



Ok, maybe ask your doc about some mild tranqs/muscle relaxants? AFAIK It tends to be due to a muscle auto-reflex triggered from the subconscious.
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Whadda fuck are yous? Mormons??!



Ok, maybe ask your doc about some mild tranqs/muscle relaxants? AFAIK It tends to be due to a muscle auto-reflex triggered from the subconscious.
No, i dont drink or do drugs because i pretty much fucked my life up a few months ago and became depressed. Now i've turned it around.
She doesn't like drinking that much.

Thanks, i never thought about tranqs/muscle relaxants.
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Old 04-02-2009, 03:06 PM
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Ok, maybe ask your doc about some mild tranqs/muscle relaxants? AFAIK It tends to be due to a muscle auto-reflex triggered from the subconscious.
Over the counter muscle relaxancens (sp).

There is also that thing in the sex shop they sell the is like a mild anistetic they use it for penises and you apply it and you only feel everynow and then or something like that. My gf go it for me once and its like numbing lotion.....best of luck either way (fuck grammar and spelling for once)
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Over the counter muscle relaxancens (sp).

There is also that thing in the sex shop they sell the is like a mild anistetic they use it for penises and you apply it and you only feel everynow and then or something like that. My gf go it for me once and its like numbing lotion.....best of luck either way (fuck grammar and spelling for once)
I don't want to anistetic my penis.
I want to be quicker so i don't cause her any pain. I can go for quite long which i used to think was a good thing until my current girlfriend.
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Old 04-02-2009, 03:18 PM
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Default Re: My girlfriend has vaginismus :(

Wait wait wait wait wait.... she can't/won't let a penis in but wants a healthy baby to come out???
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Old 04-02-2009, 03:22 PM
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I don't want to anistetic my penis.
I want to be quicker so i don't cause her any pain. I can go for quite long which i used to think was a good thing until my current girlfriend.
Not numbimg your penis, numbing her vagina....
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Not numbimg your penis, numbing her vagina....
If said numbing lotion in in her vagina it will get on his wang unless he is wearing a condom. Condoms don't make having babies easier.
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Old 04-02-2009, 06:16 PM
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If said numbing lotion in in her vagina it will get on his wang unless he is wearing a condom. Condoms don't make having babies easier.
Do you have a better suggestion? At least this will break the muscle tension and help the first couple times....lube and numbing lotion....and then the next time they dont need as much and eventually it works just fine.....

Do you need steps?
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Old 04-02-2009, 07:44 PM
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Default Re: My girlfriend has vaginismus :(

I might just be totally fucked up, but I get depressed reading about this... Sex is an important part of a relationship to me, it separates 'friends' from significant others, and it just plain feels fucking good.... It just makes me sad that you are considering having a baby with someone you can't even screw properly.

I am not pointing and laughing at you, seriously. It just makes me feel SO bad for you that you are in love with a girl who has a condition that prevents you from being able to really fuck that shit. I can't imagine being with someone I couldn't screw

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Botox is a relatively new treatment for vaginismus first desrcribed in 1997 [6]. Ghazizadeh and Nikzad reported on the use of botulinum toxin in the treatment of refractory vaginismus in 24 patients. In this study, Dysport (a type of Botox) 150-400 mIU (Ipsen Ltd, United Kingdom) was used. 23 patients were able to have vaginal examinations one week post procedure showing little or no vaginismus. One patient refused vaginal examination and did not attempt coitus. Of the 23 patients, 18 (75%) achieved satisfactory intercourse, 4 (17%) had mild pain and one patient was unable to have intercourse because of her husbandís impotence. A second dose of Dysport was needed on one patient. There were no recurrences during the 2-24 month follow-up period. [7]

A controlled study using Botox for one group of patients was compared to saline in another. 8 women having the botox were able to achieve satisfactory intercourse whereas 5 women who were injected with saline controls showed no response. None of the 8 women who had Botox required any further treatment. The procedure is simple, easy, cost-effective, not time-consuming and can be achieved on an outpatient basis. No complications were reported. [8]

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never ever put anything like that in a girl.
the numbing lotion is applied EXTERNALLY on a guy.
and then a condom should be used.
its a mild anaesthetic and used to prevent ejaculation.
it may feel like its BURNING with heat or coldness and either way be extremely uncomfortable inside a girl!

however, gently warming lubricant - and lots of it - may help. (durex play)
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You don't drink, do drugs and you can't even fuck?


Fuck that sucks.
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Sounds like a deal breaker to me. I would just find another girlfriend.
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Old 04-02-2009, 07:51 PM
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Sounds like a deal breaker to me. I would just find another girlfriend.
Sounds like she's a bit more than just a casual girlfriend, if they're considering having kids...
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Sounds like she's a bit more than just a casual girlfriend, if they're considering having kids...
how does she play on forcing out a kid if she can't even take a dick. and before you say c section just be aware that c sections are the work of the devil.
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how does she play on forcing out a kid if she can't even take a dick. and before you say c section just be aware that c sections are the work of the devil.
Easy. Forcing out a child, you have the option for an epidural... having children tears even used vaginas, so that is inevitable... AND having a child is a one time thing (or at least once a year-ish...) Not a daily, weekly, or monthly venture like sex.

Plus, the reward is so much more tangible for a woman. Having sex when you can't enjoy it has only one reward: You are pleasing your partner.

The reward of having a child is... well... a child, which many people appreciate, desire, and value above many other things, including the endurance of a few hours/days of pain.

Also: OP... you could try something like this, if this is worth 100 dollars to you... http://www.vaginismus.com/products/vaginismus_kit_dvd

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The reward of having a child is... well... a child,
Reward????? I'd rather have aidz that a child
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